I just got notified that I was rejected. I haven’t told my family yet. I feel really useless. It’s my birthday in 5 days and I’m gonna get most of my decision letters during this 5 days. I really feel useless and scared that I’ll get rejected by every college and end up going to a college with ton of loans ???If anyone out there is going through this, I’m always here to talk especially since I have no one to talk to about this ??
what are all the colleges that you applied to and which college just rejected you?
@Taraiwbsosd8505 Did you apply to any safety schools? I’m a firm believer that you’ll end up where you’re meant to be and that you can come away with a great education and wonderful memories as long as you have the right attitude. Hang in there! I’ll be rooting for you, and I’m sure your parents won’t be disappointed in you, if that’s what you’re thinking.
I got rejected from Skidmore. I applied to a lot of colleges. I did get accepted into Le moyne, Ithaca, and queens college. They didn’t offer me enough financial aid so I don’t think I can attend Ithaca or le moyne.
@menloparkmom I applied to Baruch l, st Lawrence, Stanford, Georgetown, Lafayette, F&M, duke, Emory, Earlham. My top choice is st Lawrence but if I ever get accepted and don’t get enough aid I still can’t attend it 
Only one state school? Should have had a few as back up
It is a stressful time waiting for college decisions and receiving some rejections. Regarding affordability, you can only borrow $27K in total for undergrad ($5,500 year one, then $6,500, then $7,500 each of the last 2 years). Borrowing greater than $27K is not advised, and your parents would need to take on those loans (or co-sign for you). How much can you and your family pay each year for school?
You said you have been admitted to Queens college…is that affordable? Have you run the NPCs for the other schools you applied to?
I would have optimism for SLU Baruch Earlham.
Plus with your others it sounds like a lot of “yes your great” answers to me already.
Which Queens are you admitted to? Ithaca is fantastic right out of the gate. I’ve heard good things about le Moyne but don’t know it as well.
Lafayette and F & M might come in positively too.
And the super reach schools for everyone you’ve listed are truly Hail Mary passes for everyone. Don’t despair.
And happy birthday!
Ps there are a lot of really nice moms on cc who I am sure would be happy to dm with you so you have someone to talk too. Not saying us dads can’t help but it is an online forum and you have to be careful. Don’t tell anyone your real name or location. You’re vulnerable right now and need to take care.
It might not seem like it, but everyone experiences rejection and disappointment. Things are never always easy for anyone, even if it seems like that is the case. We will experience negative outcomes–in school, at work, in our personal relationships. It’s hard. It helps to think about it this way, what happened? How can I learn from that and use it to go forward in the best way possible? That’s how successful people do it. They don’t skate away from rejection and disappointment. They learn. They are resilient. Is that easy? Often not.
I write some. Sometimes I get wonderful feedback. Sometimes I get shock that something is so awful. Sometimes that happens on the same piece (I’m not kidding). I have to sit there and read it all and figure out what is useful and try to succeed with whatever is next. True story, I got BLASTED by two profs in a grad class. It was embarrassing. I said okay, what did I do wrong, how can I do better. At the end of the semester, I met with one of them, he said, you know what, your (major) research paper is really outstanding. Grad school went very well. I’m not bragging, it was painful, it was hard to get to that affirmation. Being down on myself would have been easy, getting that done was not.
One of mine is a very good student, and very academic, and hated the first half of high school, and thought about not going to college at all. They went somewhere and it was a poor fit. They were miserable. They went to another school and loved it. They went on to grad school and recently finished there at the top of their class. If you met them today, you’d probably feel like, wow, they are together, they have it easy. Why did they succeed? Because it was easy? No, not at all, it was because they are resilient.
Keep working hard. Trust in yourself. Hopefully a school will work out and will be affordable. Worst case, it doesn’t, right now. So what happens then? Spend a year working, learning about yourself, apply again, this time with greater self awareness. It will be fine. (But I think it will work out now.)
Do you know what is probably the best predictor of success in college? SAT/ACT scores? No. High school grades? No. Extracurriculars? No. The answer is resilience. Why is that? Because we all have to fight hard. Lots of students will bomb there first physics or bio or chemistry exam? Who will succeed? Those who will say okay, I have to learn to do better. I’ll get a tutor. I’ll study better, especially now that I know better how this works. I will work hard to do better next time. Who will not succeed? Those who give up, those who blame the professor, etc.
I believe you can do it, because I can see everyone who works hard and stays positive can do it. Your disappointment is real. Things can suck. I know. Okay now learn from it. Go forward with a positive attitude. Be kind and helpful to everyone because you know everyone has faced the same disappointment as you are feeling now, and you can empathize with them and know what they’ve felt. They’ve bombed too. They’ve been rejected from a school. Their boss has blasted them. They’ve been in difficult relationships. They’ve felt pain. They’ve lost someone they loved. Because everyone has experienced some of these. And, like you, they are working hard to move forward.
So bottom line: be positive, look forward, move forward, treat others well, know that one day soon you’ll be in school and doing the things you want to do. And good luck with the rest of your decisions.
@airway1 I applied to 6 city schools, including Baruch and queens college.
Your fine! Son applied to 10 schools only one acceptance …
@privatebanker thank you! I really really appreciate your help and support. I’m going to try and be as positive and strong as I can. Thank you for all your advice and since I don’t have a father it feels nice to talk to a father figure. I’ll be careful and follow your advice. Thank you once again!
I was kind of in the same position as you when I got rejected from UChicago ED1. I got into UIUC for Bioengineering and UIC, but can’t afford either - contacted Financial Aid office and they said I’ll basically be paying sticker price. I can’t
- Get FAFSA because I’m a DACA student
- Take out Federal Loans
- Pell Grant? What are those?
- Pay for even my state school due to my father’s zero income
Nonetheless, I’m just looking forward to what’s coming…19ish college decisions this month…coming hot and ready…all ones that I would be able to afford (Private + 100% meet need colleges).
The only unfortunate part? I don’t really have a “safety” that I can go to if I don’t get almost all aid. Hopefully I’ll get into at least one; worst case scenario, I’ll take a leap year, grove up research, publish more medical papers, save money, and just experience the world (cliche but true and good).
Just keep your chin up and your success is a STATE FUNCTION (if you get that chem reference). No matter the path you take, if you just keep working towards the same goal, the path you take doesn’t matter really.
@Mwfan1921 queens college is affordable for me. It’s aroujd $6500 and I think I can pay it without taking any loans. And for private colleges the most my family can pay is around 12,000. I know that’s nothing compared to the actual cost. I just don’t want to take any sort of loans. I cannot bring upon another burden on my family.
good that you have one affordable option in Queens college, limiting debt is a great goal. I am rooting for you as the rest of the decisions roll in, keep us updated. Many posters here will have great advice for you as things progress.
@Taraiwbsosd8505 Anytime you need a dad there’s a lot of us here. Just post in the open forum or on this thread. I’ll answer and others will too.
@TTG thank you so much for your advices. I am going to try (though I don’t know if I can) to be positive and happy. I will try not to give up. And I know this sounds very childish but it makes me really happy that people know about my true feelings and they’re helping me with me. I will not give up and I will succeed. Thank you so much and I truly appreciate it!
@HKimPOSSIBLE I don’t qualify for FAFSA either. I can’t get any loans but the federal government. My mother wants to take bank loans and I just don’t want to. I applied to around 18 private colleges but they’re very hard to get into. I don’t think they’d ever take me. I’m still waiting on the other schools. I genuinely hope you get into the school of your top choice. I’ll be rooting for you!!
@Mwfan1921 @privatebanker thank you so much guys. I’ll keep you updated and be as positive as I can and I will also make sure to try and follow all your advices. Thank you…
Just throwing something else out to add to other comments, have you looked into schools with rolling admissions? Maybe you will find a hidden gem that you hadn’t thought of before? But look in the price range that would work, so that the financial part won’t be so burdening when the acceptance letter comes back. This whole process is so daunting for everyone, many layers to peel and deal with. I certainly wish you the best and I am sure you will end up somewhere that is where you are meant to be. Things usually have a way of working out, sometimes we just have to step outside the comfort zone and think outside the box and see what things come…My best of luck to you! Hang in there!