<p>Okay, not to bore everyone with another sob story but I only wish to acquire help so that I can figure out what's wrong with me.</p>
<p>I'm a Freshman and the first semester is coming to a close and I honestly hate college, I have became extremely depressed over this semester and I want to know why. I have no friends up there even though I've tried make friends at the college, which makes me extremely sad and frustrated with myself because in high school I was very popular. I know that moving into a dorm would help with that but I have to pay for college myself and I hardly had enough to pay for the first semester. </p>
<p>I'm also depressed due to my academic situation, I'm failing Math 1010. Now, math has never been my strong point but failing intermediate math!? I did this stuff in high school and passed with some effort but now I study for tests and go to the tutors and I completely fail all the tests!</p>
<p>I have talked to my old friends and they constantly say how they have so many friends and how their classes are so easy! And that makes me feel like a complete loser in life because I'm poor, failing, and friendless. </p>
<p>Everyone told me that college was supposed to be the best time of your life. Now that I'm here, I just hate myself for failing academically and socially. </p>
<p>What should I do?</p>
<p>I apologize for my sorry excuse for grammar.</p>
<p>I don’t know how much advice I can offer but I hope you take some comfort in knowing you are not alone! I am in PRE ALGEBRA and have spent money from my own pocket on tutors and countless hours studying just to average a C-… Sad, and very frustrating. However, I am hoping by next semester we get the hang of things! Were freshman, so of course everything is going to seem new to us and we will have a difficult time adapting to the new course loads and expectations from professors.
As for the friendliness thing, You would be surprised how far a genuine smile towards someone and a compliment will go! Seem approachable, maybe text one of your classmates that seems nice about a homework assignment or have a study group/session with a classmate and take things from there. Maybe join a club or something, or try and get a part time job?
Good luck to the both of us lol, Hopefully we do better on our math skills!</p>
<p>Try to make friends by being yourself - do things that interest you, and join clubs you’re interested in. Likely, you’ll have a lot in common with the other people that partake in those activities! Like yff3ts said, just be approachable. Sit with someone who’s sitting alone. Make friends with the people in your classes - likely they’ll have the same interests as you, too! As for the math, get tutoring if you can. For example, my school offers free tutoring that many people take advantage of. Go to your professor’s office hours and chat with them about your issues. If he/she can’t help directly, they can probably point you in the right direction. As for your depression, that is not okay. If you’re feeling bad about your situation, even just a little, talk to a campus counselor. A lot of people are ashamed to talk with a psychologist because they think only “crazy people” or people who have really bad problems are supposed to talk to psychologists. But as a psych major I can tell you that it’s absolutely not the case, and no one should be ashamed to talk to a counselor. A counselor can give you a good unbiased opinion, get to know you and your specific situation, and talk with you on a regular basis to see how things are going. If you’ve never tried it, you should. I talk to my campus counselor once in a while just to talk about my life and what’s going on! It feels great knowing you can confide in someone. Give it a try!</p>