I am currently a freshman at Elon University. I grew up in New York and was excited to come down to school here and have a new beginning. However, my first semester has been anything but a positive experience. The Frat life here is absurd and i’m sick of going out every weekend and hanging out with people I really am not myself around. I spend too much time in my room since I have no one to hangout with and am constantly sad and upset. I feel like I am depressed and i’m never had these problems before in my life. I did well in high school and had friends who I would hangout with regular, but this has not been my case for the first semester here. I am currently getting three D’s and a C in my four classes I am enrolled in. I’ve tried to reach out for help, but my professors don’t seem to care. My semester ends in two weeks and I want to somehow get my grades up to B’s. I have a lot of late work I never handed in because i’ve been so unorganized, depressed and out of touch with reality since I got here. If I was to plead a case to them about my circumstances, do you think they would accept my late work and possibly raise my grades? Please help, i’m open to any options, I just really want this nightmare to end and get back on track. I feel like a failure and my parents are going to absolutely murder me if I don’t sort this problem out as soon as possible. I am lacking so much motivation and drive right now and I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I always think about success and doing my work on time but am never able to execute. What should I do and how am I going to get my grades up from this miserable place before it’s too late?
Hi @CANY13
Just read through your post and had to respond. I am not an expert but I think you really need to go to the health center and meet with the a counselor. Depression can be debilitating and your not alone. So many college kids feel the same way but I am sure you think you are alone, which is not the case. Talking about it with a counselor and trying to solve it will help. And being open and honest with the teachers may help too. Tell them how your struggling but show up with a plan to fix it, work in hand. Turn it in anyway. And I will tell you that a lot of grades are brought up by doing well on finals. And then let it go and focus on next semester - find a group, club or study group to connect with. It does take a while, sometimes the first year. A lot of freshmen head back to campus after Thanksgiving and it hits them that they have not made close friends like they had in high school, they are facing boat loads of work and it all piles on. The counselors are trained to help you through this and it will get better. Hang in there!