I think i'm going to break emotionally! please help!

Ok so I got accepted into both Rutgers Business School Newark and NB. However when I went to make my decision in attending college I ultimately accepted NB because everyone was trying to convince me that it was a better school and a lot of people don’t even get into the school. However I wasn’t ever that fond of the idea of leaving for college and staying at a place where I know no one there. Which is why I wanted to go to college in Newark where I know people and I can commute if I wanted to. However now I keep getting anxiety and worry 24/7 about what I will do alone in college. It has got to a point where I can’t even focus on anything school related and have even cried to my parents a few times. I still can switch to Newark, but should I I really don’t know what I should do.

You will meet friends in no time, just stay positive. College is the best place to meet new friends, be friendly and everything will be ok.

But do u think I should switch to Newark where I know I people including 2 cousins that one of which will dorm with me.

Did you go to NB Accepted Open House a few weeks ago? The red shirt students were so friendly and helpful. I talked to some of the kids in the activity fair, they have so much going on. Number 2 school for my kids.

Lots of people are saying you’ll meet new people and stuff however I can’t wrap my mind around me being alone in a college environment. I feel like I’ve made a wrong decision and should just go to Newark with the fam

Also the size of the school really scares me. I get this constant nightmare of crying alone. And I idk I just have a bad feeling about the party scene.

You won’t be alone. You will be with many other new freshman, all looking for friends like you are. Give it a shot. Be friendly, chat with people in classes and trade contact info so you have someone to contact if you miss class or just want to talk to someone about an assignment. Find a couple of clubs that look interesting and try them. Get a part time job to meet people. Go to events with people in your dorm — not everything will be about partying. And you will be busy with classes and studying.

It can take a few months to settle in. Lots of students don’t feel really comfortable until late freshman year. But you can do this.

Of course you’re nervous…you’re supposed to be nervous at the start of new directions…you’re going to be fine…

Is Rutgers NEwark Business School bad? Is that why no one wants me to go there.

I cry everyday fearing I made the wrong choice I can’t handle it.

Plus the idea of 26,000 dollars for a school that I I don’t like

If you are crying every day and can’t sleep and hen switch to Newark.

Stop and think for a second: are you going to spend the rest of your life clinging to the safety net of “I need to know someone there”?? What about after college, when you start your first real job? What if you don’t know anyone there? What if you get offered an amazing opportunity in college to study abroad-- will you decline because you don’t know anyone there? How about if you get offered an amazing chance to relocate to a new city for a fabulous career-- will you decline because you don’t know anyone there?

College is a great time to softly, gently broaden your horizons. At orientation in the fall, pretty much no one will know anyone, so you’ll be in good company.

It’s a teeny tiny little step, though I know it doesn’t feel that way-- you’re not even leaving the small state of NJ.

Just give it a real chance-- promise yourself you’ll make yourself try to love it till Christmas. Then you can re-evaluate.

I’m just scared of being too far from family I’m not ready

I don’t know anything about Rutgers but I looked at the acceptance rates and Newark is just a few percentage points lower than NB. The Niche rating is only 1/10 of a percentage point lower.

Go where YOU want to go as long as it meets your educational goals.

New Brunswick campus is where you want to be. You could go home on weekends if you want, but I wouldn’t really advise it. Everyone is new and alone when they go away to college and that’s what so great about it. For the first few months every time you meet someone you don’t know you have a free pass of introducing yourself and ask them for their name/phone #. If you don’t like them, you don’t have to hang out with them, but I bet you’ll probably meet a lot of interesting people.

My kids went to a very large U. Both of them were very scared the first few days, but in no time they made some great friends.
Just tell yourself everyday that you are ready. The worst case scenario is you hate it and transfer to the Newark campus, but more than likely you will love your new school.

I think my problem is that I’m an introvert

Have you considered the alternative of commuting to New Brunswick? I’m assuming you live close to Newark if you were planning on commuting there, New Brunswick is only a half hour train ride away.

You would be able to meet new people without having to leave home, and it’ll make the transition into college that much easier.

Your family and friends will still be there. They’re not going any place. Go to NB. It’s the flagship campus. You’ll meet people. That’s what college is all about.

I have come to realize that one of the biggest mistakes that keeps young people from growing and moving forward is thinking that today is the end of history. Thinking that the life I live now is THE life I will live the rest of my life. Thinking that the friends I have now are THE friends, set for life. Thinking that the neighborhood I live in, the city I live in are THE places …

Today is not the end of history. You will make more friends. You will live in different places. You will try new things, develop new routines, and eat new foods. This is the way life works.

And for cryin’ out loud, it’s New Brunswick! You’re not going to Beijing.

When you arrive at university, there will be MANY other students, particularly incoming freshmen, who are in exactly the same situation that you are. There will be many other introverts, who would be very happy if someone, such as you, say “hi” to them. There will be many clubs and activities to participate in.

New Jersey is not a very large state. Your family and friends will not be all that far away. If you need to go home for a day or two over a weekend, or if you want your family to visit for an evening, it will be possible. However, you will meet other students who are just as nervous as you are about fitting into a new environment.

Also, most people who are not from New Jersey or an adjacent state are unlikely to even know the difference between various campuses of Rutgers. I have worked with multiple excellent coworkers who graduated from Rutgers. I honestly never thought to ask them what campus they were from, and wouldn’t know how to interpret the answer if they told me. If you need to, then after a semester you could transfer to a different campus. However, I strongly suspect that you won’t need to, because you will find new friends at whichever campus you start at.