Well done, @Cjesusinme1! keep going forward like that- a step at a time, not taking it personally when one thing or another doesn’t seem to work out. Take it slow. Real friendships take time- sharing some good times and some tough times. You’ll get there!
@Cjesusinme1 , congrats! You took some steps and they worked! Now, just keep it up. Nice job!
I was going to write that I think cell phones can be a deterrent for shy people (in general, not meaning you specifically), meaning if you get early to class and are on your phone, or looking at it when walking, or eating, you miss all those chances to chat, make eye contact, small talk, etc. So, if you are, don’t use your cell phone as a crutch…put it away (if you are doing this…I know my DD did).
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True very true. I stay on my phone the entire time because I’m so obsessed with reddit and other social media. I usually eat with my phone on my hand or walk around with staring at my phone. Today was an exception and I loved how I could just interact with people that I’ve never interacted with. I got a study busy and we studied together for more than three hours. Through her, I met two other new people and they seemed so chill. I’m taking it one step at a time.
Thank y’all so much for giving me good advice. It’s working!
@Cjesusinme1 i’m so proud of you! You are going to be a real inspiration to thousands of freshman who feel the same way you do right now! (and I love the concept of “be brave for one minute at a time.” )
I am so happy for you! And these skills/techniques you are learning will serve you well later in life. When you graduate and get a job or move from one city to another you’ll have to go through this again and meet new people and find new friends. (I say as a shy, introverted sort who has moved around and had to start over socially. It isn’t easy, it takes time, but it can be done.)
Just popping back in to say, keep on going, @Cjesusinme1! Find something to go to this weekend 
@Cjesusinme1 great effort! Excited to hear things are working. Also, this thread could be very helpful to others like you.
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@Cjesusinme1 Reddit is a fake site where people fabricate and/or exaggerate stories, and the moderators shut you down if they disagree with what you say. Fellow Redditors mainly consist of frat boys and sorority girls, and snowflake adults.
I think you can join some music clubs so that you can meet people with similar interests, and talk to them about the music you are good at. I think it should not be too shy.
I believe that most people are friendly, maybe you are too shy, so let everyone think that you are not willing to communicate and work with them.
You should take the courage to try it, maybe everyone is looking forward to playing with you.
I want to recommend you a music. It is a bit like your story.
Marshmello - Alone (Official Music Video)
Stop and look around. Now look closer. I guarantee there are quite a few feeling the same way hoping someone will approach. Find those with similar interests, eat in same place etc.
Bravo!!! ???