<p>I moved in yesterday, classes start on Monday. I have not made any friends yet. I am not the most social person, but I am far from a hermit. My roommate and I get along well but I don't see us hanging out a lot outside of the dorm. The same goes for some of the other guys on my floor. I thought your floormates were supposed to be your good friends freshmen year? I went to 2 social events but did not meet anyone there. I know has not even been 2 days but it is annoying because I have no one to eat meals with. How long does it take to form friendships? Any advice is appreciated, thank you.</p>
<p>You sound too desperate and panicked that you have to eat alone.
Big deal, just ask someone from the floor to join you.
Also, you are awfully quick to judge people-already knowing if they will be “hanging out” friends or not.
Just be friendly, invite others to go with you places like the bookstore or to check out a freshman event and relax.
How did you go to 2 parties and say you didn’t meet anyone there?
Let me guess, you hung near the door and looked at your shoes or in your cup the whole time…</p>
<p>Don’t worry at all, many people take at least a few weeks to make friends in college - I had a tough first few weeks social-wise but ended up with a great group of friends by the end of the semester. Keep putting yourself out there - it sounds like you’re trying hard but unfortunately sometimes it takes a few tries until something actually works out.</p>
<p>@beerme you don’t need to be so harsh. Sometimes you can tell if you don’t have chemistry with someone, and that’s perfectly ok. Though OP I agree with him/her that you shouldn’t be afraid to invite people to eat with you - chances are they’re worried about not having enough people to hang out with too!</p>
<p>Just keep doing what you’re doing and try not to put too much pressure on yourself to make great friends right away. These things often just take time, so do whatever you can to meet people (joining clubs can be a great way to do this, as well as talking to people in your classes - if you suggest a study group, this could definitely transform into hanging out on a social level as well) and eventually something will work out for you :)</p>
<p>First of all, no one is “supposed” to be your friend. People develop friendships in all sorts of places, and most of the people who were my real friends (rather than just people I knew and chatted with when we saw each other) were people that I spent a lot of time with through work, school, clubs, or specifically made an effort to hang out with them.</p>
<p>It takes longer than a day to develop a real friendship. Don’t worry about it too much. Just stay involved and put yourself in situations where you will have a lot of contact with other people (clubs, etc). Don’t just wait for other people to invite you to do things. Ask other people if they want to get something to eat (or arrange with people to go out and get dinner as a group). Invite people to go see a movie or something.</p>
<p>You aren’t going to instantaneously have tons and tons of friends the minute you step onto campus. You just moved in yesterday. Keep doing what you’re doing, and just relax. It’s fine.</p>
<p>You just moved in. Even if you don’t imagine yourself hanging out with your roommate, go to lunch with them. Then, maybe they’ll bring along more people, or others will sit with you, so you can meet others.</p>
<p>They weren’t parties, that isn’t what I said. And there’s no need to be an *******.</p>
<p>Thanks to the last 3 answerers.</p>
<p>Omigosh I am having the same problem. My roommate is always going out with her friends and she’s hardly ever in the room most of the day and the people on my floor are all nice but I’ve only really talked to a few of them. And they’re all friendly but I haven’t made any friends yet. Yeah it’s a little frustrating and it really feels like everyone else has friends or at least someone to eat with and you’re just by yourself. I guess we both just need to hang in there and keep trying :)</p>
<p>thanks overbyen, I feel exactly the same way. Good luck to you.</p>