OP, if you don’t provide details, we can’t help. Yes, we are making assumptions. Provide more details, and we can stop doing that.
Yes, your older posts in June indicated that you wanted to go to schools in the NY area. You had made out several lists of schools and kept asking to be “chanced”, but nowhere did you mention your parents input.
Now, you want to distance yourself from your parents, who are or aren’t your birth parents, and have been evasive with the posters on here who want to help your situation.
What changed in the past two months from being okay to go for a “great” instate school to say that you want to go OOS? If your parents had been an issue, it would have come up in your prior postings.
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So a little bit about myself…my father was a grad student at Cornell when he had me so I was sent to live in China for 4 years as a child at boarding school."
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I am willing to go to one of the two in-state schools which I am about 99% I will be accepted to, so I don’t see why I need more safeties.
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For someone who is a senior high stats person, this indicates that you’ve made no efforts to stop by the counseling offices, even though the process of applying to colleges mentions the counselor’s letters of recommendation. At our large high school campus, where the counselors had 500-600 kids, the counseling offices were constantly barraged by the high stats kids at every break, lunch, assembly.
So it seems you don’t seek out parent nor adult input before making, nor justifying your decisions.
I completely agree with @mom2collegekids summary, and suggest you answer @PurpleTitan 's question. Who is laying down the constraints?
OP, you are planning to major in engineering? With your stats, and in your situation, I have one word for you:
Alabama. Alabama. Alabama.
It was worth repeating three times.
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So a little bit about myself…my father was a grad student at Cornell when he had me so I was sent to live in China for 4 years as a child at boarding school."
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Ok, so another piece to the puzzle…
Is the woman married to your bio-dad your step-mom? I’m only asking because you’ve mentioned:
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half brother 2 years younger, who will be expected to go an Ivy and your parents will pay for that.
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that you and your “mom” have not gotten along for many, many years (maybe from the beginning).
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that your parents (and I’m guessing mom) hasn’t shown an interest in YOUR academics.
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that you are now living with other people (and I think that your dad and (step)mom live nearby as well?
Is the $400k family income, your (step)mom’s income or your dad’s income or a combo of both incomes?
Is the family you live with related to you? Do they have ANY influence on your parents? Can they assist with any of this?
My gut is telling me that it’s not so much that your parents have said that you can’t go OOS, but they’ve only heard you say NE schools and Calif schools, and they think those are too far for various reasons. They may not have thought to consider schools like Vanderbilt or Duke or Wash U or Rice which aren’t as far.
Is your bio mom alive? If so, where is she? Can she help you out at all?
Again, if you prefer, please answer by PM.
We need to deal with facts so we can get you into a good situation.
Either you have to find a full ride with merit money or go to school in MS and then do whatever you want after that, wherever you want.