The college I’m going to now isn’t as great as I thought it would be I’m 3 weeks into the semester and I can’t stand my roommate as she constantly expects me to take her everywhere and bring her whatever she needs when I don’t know where she got that other than just because I have a car and say no every time she asks. Her and I just don’t get along and she doesn’t get it. She doesn’t understand that when I close my door that I want to be alone for awhile, I was getting changed once and she knocked once and opened the door without waiting for me to say anything. I feel like I have no privacy and I literally go home so I can do my homework and be by myself in peace.
I also want to transfer because I really feel like I don’t belong there, I’ve been trying to get involved and the more I get involved the more I realize that this college isn’t right for me. I have no idea what to do and I’m so confused every time I get asked what I want to do.
A lot of freshmen have issues with their roommates and their school in the first few months. Give it time.
Define for fyourself what it is you don’t like in this school, and try to see if the other school closer to home would really be any different. Perhaps it isn’t so much the school, as your own feelings right now. (It does sound to me like part if your issue is homesickness. That will pass, with time.)
In the meantime, find another place to study - and I don’t mean your home. Surely there are lounges and on-campus libraries you can use?
Concentrate on meeting new people, perhaps start a study group? Your roommate can’t bug you, if you’re not around! And she may not always be demanding of you: once she finds her own friends, she’ll have others to run errands with.
And BTW, even a friend you’ve known for 10 years can be an annoying roommate. It’s always good for roommates - whether they’ve known each other for a long time, or just met - to set up “house rules” and boundaries. Make sure you do that with whoever you live with next.
Form a roommate agreement…and include things like if my door is closed, I am busy. If it is open, I am free to talk.
Make rules for your car: I will not make special trips for you. If I am going to the store/mall, I will let you know and I don’t expect you to hang with me the whole time.
You just need to make new friends on your hall, in your dorm, in your classes, in yoru clubs and start getting together with them/eating with them instead of your roommate.