<p>Hello, How are you guys? I am having a MAJOR problem... I am currently living in a dorm in my college but the thing is I dont like living there. My house is 3 hours away and I come home for every weekend but even my parents are saying I cant come home every weekend... what should I do? I hate going back there... I feel like crying every time I have to go back...please help me what should I do? How should I survive this semester? Please help me. I have to go back tomorrow and I am dreading it...I feel like I am going to start crying soon... :(</p>
<p>Ok, first, pull your self together and realize you aren’t in prison, or hell, or anything. What is it about your dorm you don’t like? Have you spoken to your dorm resident assistant, or head of the dorm, or someone on campus about your problem? Do you have friends? If you are going home every weekend, I would think it has been hard to form friendships with others who are going off together having fun. What have you been doing for extra curricular activities? Anything? If not, find a club or service group you would like to become involved in. Second semester is a great time to get involved. Most colleges have counselors to help students with dorm issues, depression, home sickness, etc. Make an appointment to talk to someone. You need to handle this like an adult; you aren’t a little kid anymore. You may find yourself having to live in new places for grad school, jobs, etc. Crying about it won’t do you much good, and makes you feel like a victim. You aren’t. You are just in a new place and need to learn how to deal with the negatives and make the most of the positives! There are people to help you, potential friends you haven’t met yet because you have gone home a lot, and clubs/activities waiting to be discovered.</p>
<p>Move… </p>
<p>I don’t know what finances are like, but if you really hate it, 3 months rent probably isn’t going to be more than a couple grand. If you can’t afford it, you gotta though it out and just move out at the end of the semester. </p>
<p>Why won’t your parents let you come home? If the gas (or bus tickets) are really too much, then try to get a part time job somewhere to pay for it.</p>
<p>The dorm isn’t the problem. You’re homesick and depressed and that’s preventing you from enjoying college. If you feel the need to come home every single weekend and you’re on the verge of tears just from thinking about your dorm then there are almost certainly deeper problems. Find out whether or not your university has counseling services and make an appointment ASAP. They deal with homesickness and first-year disillusionment on a constant basis, so they’ll be able to help you. </p>
<p>If the problem really IS the dorm, then your only options are to tough it out or to move. It’s really that simple.</p>
<p>I live only an hour 30 from my house but i go home every 2 weeks. Make friends and have fun but dont get depressed. it will be okay.</p>
<p>I feel you. My roommate is a selfish pig and takes up 2/3 of the room, has drunk people over late at night so I can’t sleep, and is constantly using my side of the room without telling me.</p>
<p>I had a similar problem last year that I remedied by transferring. I lived 6 hours away so I couldn’t come home but when I did for Thanksgiving, I felt like crying (not as a victim.but by being generally ****ed off).
I realized me hating my living situation was a symptom of a bigger problem. I hated the university, most of the people, the town, etc. The small town and small minded people just weren’t for me. At all.
I don’t know if that’s true for you, but it couldn’t hurt to really figure out why you hate the dorms and if that’s the real problem.</p>
<p>You need to address what the core problem is first before we can start giving you advice, that way we know exactly what’s up!</p>