<p>Haven't you ever secretly wanted to do something you saw other people doing but were afraid you wouldn't be able to do well at? Try that and if your desire is strong enough you'll work very hard at it.</p>
<p>It doesn't have to be Greek life, the way you approached fraternities in your original post sounded unnatural, almost scientific. You can't approach this scientifically. It can't be something you figured would be an instant gratification for your situation but really don't want to do.</p>
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I cannot believe I am reading this thread...
Be yourself. It is not worth your energy to be someone else. It will just drain you. Sure, you can change your habits, but I don't think you can 'remake' yourself...if people don't appreciate you for who you are, find ways and do things that will allow them to appreciate you.
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<p>If someone is introverted, insecure, doesn't assert themself, etc. and wants to change that, there's no reason why they shouldn't. He/She wants to change for themself, not others.</p>
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If someone is introverted, insecure, doesn't assert themself, etc. and wants to change that, there's no reason why they shouldn't. He/She wants to change for themself, not others.
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<p>He/she doesn't want to change because he/she wants to be more assertive or less secure. There is a difference in being assertive/secure and "remaking yourself."</p>
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I understand that I won't stand out if I just try to fit in, I need to be a little weird, but good weird, which will get the attention and get the members approvals. Anyone have suggestions on how to remake myself in a novel way? If you are in a frat/sorority, what kind of people you want to see? how different you want them to be?
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<p>I'm sorry, but this does not just sound like someone who wants to be better for him/herself. He/she is definitely seeking others' approval, and desperately, at that. And IMO, he/she does not need to be doing something because he/she thinks that it will make him/her more "sociable/funny/interesting/pretty/sexy." He/she will either end up miserable trying to pretend to be someone he/she is not and having people probably not respond well, or he/she will probably just join the nerdy frat/sorority and be miserable because Greek life did not do what he/she wanted it to do for him/her.</p>
<p>BTW, I think the OP should reveal his/her gender, because I am sick of typing "he/she."</p>
<p>She said she isn't sociable and she obviously wants to be. The reasons for this are usually the reasons that I mentioned. And there isn't a difference... becoming secure, sociable, whatever is remaking part of yourself. I don't think that she was implying that she wants to completely change her identity.</p>
<p>you can always rush a frat/sorority and then withdraw. if you dont live there, and then withdraw, you dont have to see them again anyways so no loss in withdrawing</p>
<p>I think the point of the conflicting advice on this thread is MAKE YOUR OWN DECISION. The opinions of strangers are good in that they present different sides of an issue, but please don't rely on what we say to ultimately influence what you do. You can find confidence and happiness with either choice you make---just make it for yourself.</p>
<p>...Or, you could really follow my advice and completely disregard what I'm saying too. And that's cool. ;)</p>
<p>"he/she will probably just join the nerdy frat/sorority and be miserable because Greek life did not do what he/she wanted it to do for him/her."
yeah, this happened to me.</p>
<p>You should rush because you will meet lots of cool people that are Greek. And if you don't like it you can drop out. I rushed and I had a lot of fun, but I also dropped out because I knew it wasn't for me (also I kind of fell asleep when one of the girls in a house was talking to me due to the fact I was up late the night before).<br>
If something about yourself makes you unhappy then change it.</p>
<p>you should just adopt a positive attitude and be excited for life. whats the point of living if you arent enjoying yourself? dont go into this trying to become someone new, work on becoming a happier version of yourself. be confident and try new things.</p>
<p>No it was like that nod off. I did formal rush and it was exhausting. I had to be on campus at 8 am, which means I had to leave at 7:30, which means I had to be up around 6:30 to get ready. So I had been doing that for about two days. My roommates did not have to be up at 6:30, so did not go to bed until 2ish. Which meant I did not go to bed until 2ish.
And the conversation was so boring. And I was so tired so I just kind of just nodded off. The girl who was rushing me gave me a dirty look. I felt kind of bad but I also thought it was really funny at the same time.</p>