<p>Okay, frankly, I am a nerd. I am not very sociable/funny/interesting/pretty/sexy, but I got so tired of studying/worrying about internships all the time in college, which is supposed to be the best 4 years of my life. Therefore, I want to walk out of my comfort zone and enter the Greek life in my college next semester. </p>
<p>Like any other sororities/fraternities, ours also have Rush/bickering process, in which you have to play games and talk w/ the members. I understand that I won't stand out if I just try to fit in, I need to be a little weird, but good weird, which will get the attention and get the members approvals. Anyone have suggestions on how to remake myself in a novel way? If you are in a frat/sorority, what kind of people you want to see? how different you want them to be?</p>
<p>Why don't you just be yourself? Do you want to go Greek because you'd enjoy it or just because you think it'll change things completely for you? Because I've seen nerds go Greek at my school--and they've just stayed nerds, only getting bids from the nerdy fraternity. I think if you want to make more friends, you should join some clubs that interest you and that kind of thing. And the part about how college is supposed to be the best 4 years of your life is highly debated. Yeah, don't spend all your time doing homework, but don't try to be someone who you're not either. If you do end up going Greek, be yourself or it won't work out otherwise--people will see right through you.</p>
<p>Also, it's not necessary to go Greek to be more social. And going Greek is a very big step. You can always join a few clubs and get friends and contacts that way.</p>
<p>lol, made is like a guilty pleasure of mine. Nothing more entertaining watching a nerd try to evolve into some kind of ladies man, or something like that. </p>
<p>Anyway, I would say that stepping outside your comfort zone is a good thing, but remember to embrace who you really are. If you have to compromise who you are to be accepted by others, is it really worth it? Besides, it's not that hard to see when someone is acting out of character. A fraternity is not a quick fix, and it's very doubtful it will improve your sex appeal ( which im sure is higher that you give yourself credit for, lol.) That being said, if you get a good vibe during rush week, and you feel a frat will make u a happier person, go for it.</p>
<p>^No, I think you don't understand greek life OR yourself very well. It's good to want to join something that's outside your comfort zone, but just doing that will not make you cooler. You need to decide what kind of person you want to be, and then join into things that fit that personality. Other people will not construct a personality for you, and if you believe that's true then you will only ever be superficially different. And I agree with whoever said that people can see through the act fairly easily.</p>
<p>As far as greek life goes, you're going to have to figure that one out for yourself. Each frat/sorority on each campus tends to have a unique character, and personality that you either will or won't "click" with. It's not something we can tell you, unless you're looking for vague suggestions like, "be sociable." Just get out there and start learning about greek life on your campus.</p>
<p>Greeks are a terrible idea if the sole reason to join them is to "be more social". Greek life isn't for everyone, there are people who will love it and fit in really well with their sorority/fraternity and the overall system, and there are those who won't enjoy it as much. College isn't about changing yourself or conforming to the masses, it's about understanding who you really are and finding similar people. Honestly, being a "nerd" in college isn't that terrible because to an extent, everyone is a nerd. What are your interests and hobbies? Have you thought about joining clubs to get to know more people?</p>
<p>joining a sorority/frat isn't going to make you sociable, it won't make you funny or interesting, and it sure as hell won't make you pretty or sexy. Joining a frat is not a magic pill. These are issues that you need to evaluate the cause of and fix yourself. You think that partying is going to change your personality? Get real... You're probably not funny or interesting for the same reason that most people are. They spend their lives trying to live up to other people's standards, which ironically leads to complete failure. Join a frat if you want to join a frat, not because you think that it will solve a much deeper rooted issue.</p>
<p>and the people here understand nerds. Pretty much everyone here is one.</p>
<p>Just go for it and rush. I think that you will change anyway as a result of things in which you participate, friends that you make, etc. So don't worry about it.</p>
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^^haha. good call.</p>
<p>i think joining a frat or a sorority can be a good way to meet people if you have trouble making friends on your own because you'll just be thrown into social situations you'd probably avoid otherwise. however, i DON'T think it's a good idea to "remake" yourself before rushing. if you don't present your true personality, you'll end up pledging a sorority that might not be right for you. but don't stay completely in your comfort zone socially and be unengaging--make an effort to try to find a match that feels naturally comfortable to you.</p>
<p>College was the place where I STOPPED pretending and trying to fit in and found who I really was. I realized that if I didn't join a sorority or hang out every weekend or turned down a party or two, that was okay, because that's what I wanted to do. I started saying "no" and being me, and I became a lot more comfortable in my skin. If you want to join a sorority because you like the girls and you think you'll like Greek life, go ahead, but don't do it simply to find friends -- it's an expensive and time-consuming way to do something you can do for free, if you don't really want to be Greek.</p>
<p>Also, I dearly hope college was NOT the best four years of my life. That would mean the peak of my life happened at age 18-22 and the next 60 years are downhill...ugh. Personally, I'm enjoying graduate school even more than I enjoyed college.</p>
<p>The name of the game is "confidence." If you think putting yourself outside your comfort zone will make you more confident (and it does, imo), then go for it.</p>
<p>The name of the game is "confidence." If you think putting yourself outside your comfort zone will make you more confident (and it does, imo), then go for it.</p>
<p>I cannot believe I am reading this thread...
Be yourself. It is not worth your energy to be someone else. It will just drain you. Sure, you can change your habits, but I don't think you can 'remake' yourself...if people don't appreciate you for who you are, find ways and do things that will allow them to appreciate you.</p>
<p>I was a high school nerd too. I got to college and became a college nerd. If I had not gone Greek, I would've stayed a nerd for the rest of my existence. Fortunately I joined a fraternity on campus that had a couple of brothers that I aspired to be like. They were the Presidents and on the Executive Boards of the major campus non-Greek orgs. I sought them out after researching all of the traditional, mainstream orgs that on my campus (nyu) were known for drinking and partying and I didn't want to be that type of cool. I knew that I had my ethics of hard work and desired leadership could be fulfilled by associating myself with current leaders. So I pledged. It was not easy - actually took me 9 weeks and 6 days before becoming a brother but that short period pales in comparison to the magnitude of how my future was impacted. Not only did I start leading on campus organizations, I went on to chair the planning committee for Latin Heritage Month at NYU, following in another brother's footsteps and post-college, launched an events business with another brother/business partner that was acquired in 2006. These are all facts. I have now launched a 2nd endeavor now with 2 more brothers and hope to be successful here. Basically, point is Greek life changed mine. Others have bad experiences, either because they do not research or they let others take advantage of them while they are pledging. You've always got to have a spine and not let a fraternity or sorority do something that you believe against. You will be respected for it. I always love to pledge individuals with minds, even if they are nerds because I know they will help my organization think different. I've said a lot :)</p>