<p>Okay, frankly, I am a nerd. I am not very sociable/funny/interesting/pretty/sexy, but I got so tired of studying/worrying about internships all the time in college, which is supposed to be the best 4 years of my life. Therefore, I want to walk out of my comfort zone and enter the Greek life in my college next semester.</p>
<p>Like any other sororities/fraternities, ours also have Rush/bickering process, in which you have to play games and talk w/ the members. I understand that I won't stand out if I just try to fit in, I need to be a little weird, but good weird, which will get the attention and get the members approvals. Anyone has suggestions on how to remake myself in a novel way? If you are in a frat/sorority, what kind of people you want to see? how different you want them to be?</p>
<p>If you have some Rush experiences to share, I would be all ears. </p>
<p>What's wrong with being a nerd? They run the world. </p>
<p>I've got no experience with all things Greek but I will share that I am always living to the best of my ability/looking forward to the best years of my life. It's a pretty good way to live.</p>
<p>There is absolutely nothing wrong with "re-inventing" yourself if what you mean is something akin to "sharing my 'sociable/funny/interesting/pretty/sexy' side more and my 'nerdy' side less". My daughter made that choice (and, surprisingly, did choose to join a sorority after railing about them in high-school). OTOH, if what you mean is to create an artifice to make yourself appear to be something you are not, well.....I'd re-think that. That's no way to live.</p>
<p>Some fraternities/sororities welcome nerds. Each chapter at each school has its own personality - do a little research before Rush so you know which sorority/fraternity welcomes the cheerleaders/football players, the rich kids, the rednecks/homemakers, or the nerds. At most schools there will be a place for the person who is not so sociable/pretty/sexy/interesting/funny. </p>
<p>I would never had thought my youngest son would go through Rush and join a fraternity, but he did. He is studious, quiet, and plays in the band - a typical nerd. He is wildly happy with his fraternity, has more social life than I ever expected, and he still gets good grades. Don't try to be who you aren't to get in - you'll only get in the wrong place and continue to be miserable.</p>
<p>Well, you don't want to be weird to get people's attention. Each house has its own reputation. They will look for people that are similar to them. My daughter's house is known for nice girls (girls that boys bring home to their moms), so they will avoid girls that are wild or have certain reputations. At the end of the day, they will spend a lot of time together and in my daughter's case, have to live together. I wouldn't try to re-invent yourself too much because you could end up at a house that's not a right fit and you would be miserable anyway.</p>
<p>I see nothing wrong with a tomboy or a "nerdy" girl becoming more feminine - flattering haircut, dresses instead of jeans sometimes, and a little bit of makeup. I think many girls(women) would be suprised how with just a little make over would change the look, and how people receive/treat you. I am not suggesting anything drastic. I believe when you are pulled together, you will attract better attention, which will give you more self confidence - hence not as much of a wall flower.</p>
<p>When you make your rounds to each house, always have a lot of energy and a smile, no matter how tired you are. In speaking with those sisters (I am definitely assuming you are a girl), don't complain about anything (weather, school, shoes...or bad mouth about another house), try to have something positive to say about everything, compliment them on their house, dress they are wearing, thank them for having you...</p>
<p>I would recommend a site called GreekChat.com. They offer real time advise, and sometimes you can find your campus and really get specifics. But, in general I would say, as a mother and a former sorority member the first motto is: Be yourself (yes, your best self), but if you pass yourself off as someone you're not...even if you get into the "best" house you won't have fun. It's hard to act 24/7. </p>
<p>The best example of the be yourself mantra: My friend's daughter rushed and pledged this fall. It is, according the the GIRL, the worst one on campus. Some of them are fat, some have pimples...but they are there for each other, like each other and support each other. And that is true sisterhood.</p>