<p>How many of you think you know right off the bat that if you get accepted to boarding school with enough FA, you will definitely go? If not, what would hold you back?</p>
<p>I would definetly go, but I don’t need FA</p>
<p>What grade are you applying to? Missing your family wont be an issue?</p>
<p>If I’m accepted there is no doubt in my mind that I will go. I evidently will miss home and my family but going through the application process has just confirmed my desire to go. This was a thought out decision and definitely not “spur of the moment”. I am super excited and anxious, but nonetheless ready. :)</p>
<p>Of course if I don’t get enough FA…it’s a whole other story… :/</p>
<p>If I were to be accepted, I would go. However, I have a recently widowed mother, and she also is physically handicapped. I’m very grateful that she is still working, and I am an FP applicant. However, she can’t really navigate around the house, and that worries me. I would have qualms about leaving her home alone, but I wouldn’t let that hold me back. I have to live my own life, and if granted the opportunity to attend boarding school, then I would most certainly call my mother every single night (even if we do argue incessantly). :-)</p>
<p>unique6, do you have an siblings? If not, from what you’ve said, I don’t think I’d be able to leave my mother in that situation with a clear conscience. What year are you applying to?</p>
<p>smelltheroses, What year are you applying to?</p>
<p>^ i know you don’t have bad intentions but i think it’s honestly unnecessary to analyze/judge other people’s personal home lives. i’m sure that unique6 has valid reasons for her decision, just as i’m sure you have a perfectly valid justification. but it’s still rude to make assumptions, as we obviously don’t understand his/her “unique” circumstances</p>
<p>just my 2 cents, i don’t mean to offend anyone :)</p>
<p>why would you bother to apply if your not actually planning to go? is this thread serious?</p>
<p>I would not definitely go. I’m really really torn between staying at my current school, where I think I could get into a better college, and going to a boarding school where I would probably have the most rewarding 2 years of my life. I’m really, really unsure of anything right now.</p>
<p>unique6, as a divorced mom of one d, If you mom was supportive of you applying then if you are accepted she wants you to go. </p>
<p>It is hard and I miss my daughter BUT I want the best for her and seeing that she is enjoying bs and thriving, makes the missing not that bad.</p>
<p>Parents know we have to allow you to grow, sometimes a little earlier than others. :-)</p>
<p>DiveAlive, I see where you are coming from.
Unique6, I apologize if I offended you somehow.
loubear, I have the same situation. I guess it all depends on what happens in March.</p>
<p>lolagirl, None taken. Sometimes, it is difficult to understand the situations of others.<br>
DiveAlive, Thank you for your open-mindedness. I don’t come across that too often! 
AlexzMom, Yes. I do agree with you. My mother is very supportive and does NOT want me to feel guilty. She especially values education and would definitely be thrilled if I was accepted. She accepts any personal sacrifices as her duty as a mother. I’m very appreciative.
I don’t have too many doubts anymore, but I was really feeling the indecision when I first started this process. However, my mother encouraged me to continue applying. My mom isn’t in a wheelchair or anything. She did suffer an injury with permanent effects, but she can walk on her two feet (with a slight limp), and yes, I do have a sibling. However, said sibling has graduated and is living on his own. If he gets to have his life, then so do I. I need to be a kid and enjoy my opportunities. Why should I put my life on hold for my mother? She is supposed to take care of me, not the other way around (or at least not until I am an adult). It took me a while to fully accept this, but I have.</p>
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<p>These are sad questions about any one’s mother. I guess going to school won’t guarantee you an education. If you go to your local public school, you are not putting your life on hold. If that were true, a million other public school kids’ lives are on hold. You are not a kid any more and BS are far from an enjoying opportunity. I’m really sad. 
Not meant to be personal.</p>
<p>Then I’m afraid you don’t understand my situation. It’s not a question of boarding school itself. It’s a question of opportunity. I’m sorry if I did not make that clear. I love my mother. She loves me, but no matter how much you love somebody else, you cannot sacrifice everything for him or her unless you are emotionally prepared to do so. I am not prepared to do that. Especially, since other circumstances have prevented me from being an actual kid in past years. I think AlexzMom will understand the most. My mother won’t be condemned to a hovel if I leave. She is financially comfortable, and if she wishes to do so, she could retire. If she chooses to do so, she will still be financially comfortable and able send me to a BS (if I am accepted). Maybe my wording was a bit off, but if I gave up opportunities for the sake of my mother, then I will just resent her. I DO NOT want that to happen.
I don’t know if you ever will understand, pulsar. I also think you are being a bit close-minded and idealistic. The world is not an amazing place by any stretch of the imagination. Also, considering everything that I said in my previous post basically echoes my mother’s thoughts, I do not believe I am being a malicious person. My mother and I were never particularly close in the first place, but we do care for each other. It’s tricky, but I do not appreciate your insinuation that I am a spoiled, immature, selfish, and ungrateful jerk. If you weren’t insinuating such a thing, then I may have misinterpreted (which is entirely possible).</p>
<p>That’s a mouthful. I rest my case.</p>
<p>unique6: What you’ve went through already in your life takes a large amount of courage and tenacity. I respect you so much for that. Any of the schools you are applying to would be lucky to have someone who has experienced what you’ve gone through as a member of their community next year. Good luck on March 10th! And thanks for sharing your story with us!</p>
<p>2010 hopeful, you have no idea how much reassurance you have just given me. This reassurance is not in regards to the admissions process, but you have really made me feel a lot better about myself and this decision. Thank you very, very much! Thank you for your respect and appreciation for my experiences. I am grateful for your understanding and especially your kind words. Maybe I’m being a bit ridiculous and overly emotional at the moment, but I was feeling really uneasy about everything. :-)</p>
<p>unique6: No problem This process can greatly affect a person emotionally and definitely takes a lot out of you. It makes you reflect upon your own life and what is important to you. Just make the best decisions you can and everything will work out in the end! Keep your head up!</p>
<p>I would assert that you ARE still a kid–in the best sense of that term. Yes, you’ve had to “grow up” ahead of schedule, but that doesn’t mean your growing is done, and that boarding school won’t challenge you immensely in ways that will be tremendously helpful to you when you arrive at adulthood. It sounds like your Mom is OK with your drive to pursue your personal dreams, and that’s where I’d put my money: communication. You don’t have to be BFFs, but it does sound like you’re open and honest with each other.</p>
<p>unique6 somehow im in your situation too. my mom is very irresponsible and i’ve always had to be the mom in our relationship. i have to make sure she doesnt go out too late or drink too much and i feel like if i do go to boarding school she won’t be able to take care of herself. i know this sounds really wierd but its true, i once left with my dad for a few months and when i came back my mom was a mess. most of the bills werent payed and the house seemed broken. she had bought a bunch of stuff she didnt need and i found out she had gone partying almost everyday of the week. I dont want that to happen again so if i do get excepted with enough financial aid its going to be hard to actually get up and go. i know i want to go so badly but i feel i am responsible for my mom. any help?</p>