I'm depressed

<p>Hi,</p>

<p>I'm in 9th grade now, but two years ago when I was in 7th grade, I took the DUKE Tip SAT and got a 1350. My parents were tremendously disappointed. They still bring it up and sometimes I can hear them talking about it behind my back. </p>

<p>I got a 1350 and all of the other kids got a 1500+ and I know for a fact that some of them did not study at all, like me. How come they could get a much higher score than me? At the time I was in advanced classes and received all A's. Now I am in the IB program and still receive all A's. I know I'm smart but when it comes to taking the SAT, I feel really dumb, especially in the SAT MATH section. </p>

<p>I do admit though, I am kind of lazy when it comes to SAT prep. This is partly because whenever I try to do some questions, I end up getting them wrong and that just degrades my confidence even further and keeps me away from SAT prep.</p>

<p>My parents always have pressured me into thinking that SAT is everything, and that it's the biggest test of my life. Moreover, they tell me that if I "fail" the SAT I'll end up going to a community college and possibly working in McDonalds or doing some other low-paying job. My parents say that if I pass the SAT my life is "set" and that I could go to any college I want. Furthermore, they say that to "pass" or get a good score (to them a good score is 1800+) I must do SAT prep for atleast 10 hours a day. My dad sometimes says that he will not pay a penny of my college fee's and that I must go to college on a scholarship. This kind of pressure just drives me deeper into depression and sets me up for failure. </p>

<p>I appreciate your thoughts in this situation </p>

<p>Thanks :)</p>

<p>Bro, you’re in ninth grade. The SAT is a college level exam.
My advice: don’t get so hung up on the SAT and college now. Enjoy high school and just worry about maintaining a good GPA. Try to take whatever honors and AP courses that you can and by the time you’re a junior/senior, you’ll be very well prepared for the SAT.</p>

<p>The first time I took the SAT, I got a 1770. The second time was a 1910. Now, I’m going to take it one last time aiming for ~2100. I’m nervous, but I believe I have a shot. All you need is confidence and determination, and as cliche as it may sound, it really is quite possible to reach your goal.</p>

<p>As for your parents’ behavior. Don’t worry about them and what they say. My mother used to bother me constantly about my resume, saying it was awful. (She also had no idea how GPA was calculated.) She stopped immediately once my guidance counselor and a financial adviser both said that it’s rather good. And as for your father, perhaps he is just trying to motivate you by saying he won’t pay a penny. I really doubt your parents will allow your potential to go to waste.</p>

<p>In sum, relax. Allow yourself to enjoy high school. Get involved and stay on top of your work, and I can guarantee you everything will be fine.</p>

<p>But how about those other kids who got 1800+ scores when they took the DUKE Tip SAT in 7th grade while doing little to no SAT prep? What do they have that I don’t have? I need to know. </p>

<p>Thanks.</p>

<p>First, some SAT advice. I wrote this in response to someone asking about what books/tools to use, but I think it’s valid in this case, as well: </p>

<p>Definitely buy Collegeboard’s “Blue Book” which is their official SAT guide. It really is just a giant, blue book that you can find at most libraries or bookstores.
For math, I’ve heard that you can practice with Gruber’s. I did, but only after I had tons of experience taking practice tests. Some of the math problems in Gruber’s are really hard and would never actually be found on the SAT. After taking a ton of practice tests, I kind of had a feel for which questions in Gruber’s were that level of difficulty and I usually just skipped those. But in short, Gruber’s is pretty good for math. I used Barron’s math workbook for math- there were some mistakes and I’m not sure how much it actually helped. But then again, I’m naturally pretty good at math, so Barron’s was good for practice.
Get the Barron’s writing workbook- to excel in the writing section, you really just have to memorize a bunch of writing rules and those are all featured in the Barron’s writing workbook. And since it’s a workbook, it gives you practice.</p>

<p>Some people might recommend Direct Hits for vocabulary. That’s cool and all; you can also buy flashcards and most SAT critical reading books have lists of vocab. You can find lists of vocab pretty much everywhere. I believe Sparknotes has one?</p>

<p>I recommend that you stay far, far away from any Kaplan books. </p>

<p>The best way to study for the SAT is to take lots of practice tests. There are ten- I think- in the Blue Book. Once you finish that, you can go online to Collegeboard’s SAT course. The lessons themselves aren’t particularly helpful, but it features ten additional practice tests.</p>

<p>I think if you look around on college confidential, you should be able to find plenty of free tests. And you can always use PSATs to study for the SAT, as well.</p>

<p>Use this for essay advice: <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/sat-preparation/645763-how-write-12-essay-just-10-days.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/sat-preparation/645763-how-write-12-essay-just-10-days.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>Finally, cut out all the questions you get wrong on the practice tests and tape/glue them into a notebook or composition book. Review those questions and make sure you really understand how to do them and why you got them wrong.</p>

<p>Now, some other important stuff:
The SAT is most definitely NOT everything. If you don’t get a good score, then that will hurt you when applying for colleges. But if you get a good score, that won’t actually help as much as you think. The majority of people who apply to stellar schools have stellar objectives (grades, class rank, SAT scores, etc.), so you won’t stand out if you have stellar objectives. Everyone has stellar objectives. Your life will NOT be “set.” Personal example: I have a 2320 and I was recently rejected from Penn.
The SAT is important, but THERE ARE OTHER THINGS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE SAT. FOCUS ON THOSE THINGS. “Those things” being extracurriculars and whatever else you do outside of school. DO THINGS OUTSIDE OF SCHOOL. Because extracurriculars/whatever you do outside of school will differentiate you from other applicants. Your essays will differentiate you, as well. </p>

<p>Take the SAT seriously (as in don’t be lazy about it), but don’t get completely caught up in it. Don’t let it dictate your life. </p>

<p>If your dad really will not pay, then do well on the PSAT. In case you dont know, the PSAT is the qualifying test for National Merit finalists. If you’re a National Merit Finalist or Semifinalist, a lot of colleges will give you a free ride. </p>

<p>Don’t let your parents and the SAT bog you down or get you down. You’re in ninth grade, so you really shouldn’t be worrying about this stuff yet. Just don’t let their comments affect you personally. I kind of know where you’re coming from. If you need anything else, feel free to PM me!</p>

<p>Last thing: are your parents foreign by any chance?</p>

<p>In response to “what do they have that I don’t have,” listen:</p>

<p>There will always be people smarter than you and people dumber than you. You can’t get so caught up on other peoples’ performances. Just focus and worry about yourself.</p>

<p>Like Caught says: There will ALWAYS be people ahead of you in some way or form. Time to get over it. Actually, be happy that you’re in the league to compete with them.
You’re only 9th grade. You have a long way to go.<br>
What do they have that you don’t? Maybe more smarts, maybe more studying skills, maybe nothing, maybe a lot. I used to wonder this myself and finally gave up.
If you want to work on a goal, I’d work towards the PSAT which puts you in the position of being a Merit Scholar. It’s pretty much a one-shot chance for merit money from a lot of schools. Just put it on a goal list since you seem to want one. Take some practice tests and go from there.</p>

<p>Here are important points for you:

  1. The ACT may be a better test for you than the SAT. The ACT and SAT are interchangeable for college admissions tests. </p>

<p>Go to ACT.org website
<a href=“http://media.act.org/documents/preparing.pdf[/url]”>http://media.act.org/documents/preparing.pdf&lt;/a&gt;
and Collegeboard.com (SAT) website.
<a href=“SAT Practice and Preparation – SAT Suite | College Board”>SAT Practice and Preparation – SAT Suite | College Board;

<p>Get the full-length practice test on each website. Photocopy the answer bubble sheet. Take a practice test UNDER EXACT TIMED CONDITIONS based on the directions of the test and by bubbling in the answers just like it was a real test. Grade your test. Convert it to a score (0-800 for SAT, 0-36 for ACT). Do the same thing for both the SAT and the ACT. Look up the SAT-ACT concordance table to see which one you basically scored higher on.<br>
[SAT</a> ACT Conversion Chart | Convert ACT scores to SAT scores](<a href=“http://www.studypoint.com/ed/sat-to-act-conversion/]SAT”>SAT to ACT Conversion Chart: Convert Your SAT Scores to ACT Scores)</p>

<p>If you scored higher on the ACT, then THIS is the test that you should be studying for, not the SAT. If you scored higher on the SAT, then the SAT will be your test. If the ACT is your test, get the 3 real ACT tests (aka red book) on Amazon.com; If the SAT is your test, get the College board real SAT tests (aka blue book) on Amazon.com.</p>

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<li><p>Look up study techniques by Xiggi and Silverturtle on cc. You can maybe study vocab and grammar and critical reading now, but mainly studying will happen between soph and jr year or during jr year.</p></li>
<li><p>If you do terribly on your standardized test, you will not work at McDonalds. If you do spectacularly on your test, you will not “have it made.” There are constant shades of grey and variability. Your parents are just painting it in black and white terms to try to exaggerate a point, but it is untrue. (H used to tell S this same thing, but it didn’t motivate S either, so we came clean and told S the truth).</p></li>
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