I'm just gonna come out with it...

<p>So I've had enough.</p>

<p>I can't really talk to anyone about this because it will affect academics so I'm posting this here.</p>

<p>My mother has either has borderline personality disorder (BPD) or has bipolar disorder. My father is disabled after tripping on the staircase and injuring his spine. I go to an independent private school that is quite costly. We receive financial aid so that I can remain in school. </p>

<p>Since my father cannot work, the only source of income comes from my mother. Both have not completed high school education and both cannot speak fluent English so their choice in jobs is limited. </p>

<p>My mother constantly berates me for her "bad life" and she repeats the same lecture OVER and OVER. She has these mood swings that cause her to drive recklessly or throw glass objects around the house.</p>

<p>I feel very unsafe at home and have often stayed at school until 12AM. I have suggested to her that she see a psychiatrist but she ignores my suggestion and says that she does not have time due to her commitment to her job. She works long hours for days to pay the bills. </p>

<p>I will post back later but for now this is all i have to say.</p>

<p>My only suggestion is to get her on medication. I know many people who have bi polar disorder and can’t function without their medication.
It shouldn’t take that long to get. All she would have to do is take the meds in the morning before work and she should be good to go.</p>

<p>I’m sorry you have to go through this. I have bi polar depression (known formally as ‘manic depression’), so I completely understand that feeling that your loved ones are out to get you. It’s a chemical imbalance that completely takes over your feelings so you have to learn to develop strong rational thought. Think, for example, the feeling of being heartbroken. You know that you will get better in time but no matter how hard you try to tell yourself this, your sad feelings still linger. That is what she is feeling. She knows that you are not to blame but her feelings won’t go away, and because we generally act upon feelings, she lashes out at you.</p>

<p>Like I said before, get her on medication. There should be no excuse if she generally cares for your well being. But don’t ask her to try it while she’s going through a phase because then she’ll get angrier. Ask her when she’s in a normal mood.</p>

<p>Check to see if you have a NAMI office in your area. They have support groups for family members and can give you good advice on how to proceed. </p>

<p>[NAMI:</a> National Alliance on Mental Illness - Mental Health Support, Education and Advocacy](<a href=“http://www.nami.org/]NAMI:”>http://www.nami.org/)</p>

<p>What year in school are you? How much longer do you have at home?</p>

<p>I’m in about the same position as you, except I haven’t stayed at school when things go south. I’ll stay at my grandparent’s house for a week or so though, when I just can’t take my home. My step-mom’s on medication for the same thing your mom seems to have, and she also visits a therapist. But she is still far from perfect. Someone with a rude and abrasive personality (like my step-mom’s), in addition to mental problems, who doesn’t want to change just will not change, it just won’t happen. This is why medication is often the best option, though trust me, IT’S FAR FROM PERFECT!!! My step-mom’s on medication, and it doesn’t work perfectly, in fact, Benzo drugs have pretty much destroyed her. Here’s how it works: doctor prescribes a drug, drug works for a time, then drug stops working; doctor prescribes another drug; cycle repeats; such is the unfortunate reality of Benzo drugs. I will say: Try, but don’t get your hopes up.</p>