<p>I leave to go to school in two weeks and I've never regretted anything more in my life. The applied to the school on a whim, never actually believing I would get accepted. Well I did and now I'm all packed up and ready to go and I feel sick about it every day for the reason below:
It's in Florida (I live in Missouri) so my tuition (which was already pretty high) just got crazy expensive.
I'm having a hard time finding loans and am having to ask multiple places for a lesser amount and am still not finding anything.
I'm not 100% sure what I want to do yet so I feel like I'm wasting money by being there.</p>
<p>My mom and I have already been to preview and I absolutely fell in love with the place but I know I can't afford it. I would talk to my mom about transferring but she's been so proud of me and we've sunk so much money into this already that it wouldn't be fair to her; but it's not fair to me to be going to a school I just cannot afford. It's stupid but I never really amounted to much in high school and getting into the University of Florida was like the perfect way to show people what I was capable of but now that seems so stupid and petty. I'll probably end up transferring out but I don't want to rush it in case that ends up being a mistake. I feel like I should have just gone to a local school and been grateful for the opportunity to go to school at all.</p>
<p>I just want general advice and how I should proceed from here. Please and thank you.</p>
<p>What does your mom say about it? Has the financial aid package or your family’s financial situation changed since you made your decision in April?</p>
<p>Learn about sunk costs. Basically, having spent money on something isn’t a good reason to go on if there isn’t a compelling reason to do so going forward. Explore what options you have transferring and concentrate on grades.</p>
<p>Or, if it is too expensive to spend even a semester or year there, look into either starting at a local community college and transferring to a low cost (perhaps in-state public) school, or taking a gap year to work (no school to preserve frosh eligibility) and reapply to a more affordable list of colleges (if you have high stats, there are some lists of big merit scholarships at the top of the financial aid and scholarships forums section).</p>
<p>I would not worry about this aspect. Not all students know what they want to do and those who do often change their mind. Freshman year can be about about exploring options and finding a major you will love. If you can afford it, it’s not a waste of money.</p>
<p>But if you can’t afford it, maybe you should consider an alternative.</p>
<p>It sounds like you haven’t even started school there yet. The money you’ve sunk must be to dorm. I agree with @sally305 that you should check into deferring for a year to relook at your options.</p>
<p>It is fine if you not sure what you want to do yet, but it is not fine if you already know the school is not affordable. You do need to take some action. Talk to your mom to see if it is viable option to go to that school or not. You really don’t want to have too much debt from college education. You may either need to defer or find another school soon.</p>
<p>@siliconvalleymom I applied for a bunch of scholarships (between 40 and 50) and some of them got back to us late or didn’t get back to us at all. The school pulled my financial aid help because some things didn’t check out (things I thought I had handled back in the beginning of June but I guess there was a mix up). I’m also not getting any loans, even with a co-signer.</p>
<p>Thank you everyone for your advice and help! I’ve decided to go ahead and talk to my mom about it! I can tell everyone what happens if care at all. :)</p>
<p>Good luck. I understand it must be hard to put behind such a good fit for you, but in 30 years the debt will be most of what you will remember from college :)</p>
<p>I would also agree with taking a gap year if possible so you can reconsider your options. There are many paths to a stable career & life.</p>
<p>Yes, please let us know what happens. There’s nothing wrong with taking a gap year and applying to a new list of schools, or starting at your local cc. Good luck.</p>
<p>You might try talking with your high school’s college counselor. Even though you have already graduated, they should have some suggestions about how to handle this.</p>