<p>I'm a freshman in college but I currently attend community college. I am transferring to a university 2 hours away in the fall. But I'm really nervous to go because I have a really low self esteem and I'm not very confident in myself. I have issues with feeling judged and that no one likes me, and I have severe anxiety.
I'm scared that I'm going to go away and not make any friends or get along with anyone. What should I do?</p>
<p>I always vote for putting yourself in that situation (i.e. going away) and forcing yourself to make the best of it, rather than running away from it. </p>
<p>Making friends can be hard. Making friends in college can be harder for some. However, I think it can often be EASIER for some, especially people who might write themselves off (as you seem to do) as not as confident. The fact of the matter is that there are so many people in college, much more than in high school or even community college, that you’re bound to meet people you click with. Yes, it does involve putting yourself out there some, which can be scary. But if you’re in the dorms there will be some people you will be in close proximity to right away (but don’t fret if you don’t click with them, I’ve lived in two different dorms and never knew my floor) and there are clubs, classes, and jobs where you can meet other people. </p>
<p>I’d recommend rushing a frat or sorority if you’re able. Even if you don’t feel like you’re “that type,” you’ll meet a lot of people during rush, and you might just find a house you really love. Even if you don’t, it’s a great way to get out and be social. You only have to force yourself a little bit, then things get a lot better.</p>
<p>You don’t know until you’ve tried.</p>
<p>I suggest you pick a college far away enough from home that you’re going to be in the situation, but also close enough that you can easily bail in case of an emergency. The sweet spot is between 2-5hr apart. Worst that can happen is that you fail to handle it, so you drop out, return home, and start working on plan B. However, you have so much to gain from the experience.</p>
<p>In any case, if you really have real self-esteem and anxiety problems and can’t overcome them on your own (or with help of friends), there’s usually helpful counselors whom you can talk to.</p>