<p>I've had a lot of trouble at home this past year. </p>
<p>My mom has been hospitalized for depression and has been acting as weird and sad as imaginable...I also recently found out that she's been having an affair for two years. She blackmailed my father into keeping it quiet, and actually planned on moving to California with the man she had been seeing until I persuaded her otherwise, which I now really regret. This is because I refuse to speak to her at home for all that she did, leading my brother to not speak to me, which creates an awful living situation. All of this is coming together at the worst possible time...I'm about to graduate and about to leave home, and hate to do so on such an awful note. I feel like if I leave home when I hate it there, it will never feel right or reasonable to return, let alone as a happy person.</p>
<p>I'm headed to Middlebury in the fall, and even though it's an amazing school, I just don't feel right going there. The kids seem preppy and not all that smart, a part of the culture I always pretended to enjoy but so desperately wanted to escape in college. The school is also obviously very isolated, so I would basically be trapped in a place I don't feel right in, sort of the way I feel now...I also wouldn't have a real home to return to and even feel homesick over, so I really would be lost.</p>
<p>In case it's important (it always is), I'm a white kid from New York with a slacker 3.6 gpa after senior year, a 2400 on the SAT's, subject tests and ap's in the area of 670-720 and 4-5, great community service and school leadership/activities (all of which are a complete joke, but not ostensibly), pretty nice recommendations, and I think I could definitely put together great essays if I devoted time to them.</p>
<p>I really screwed myself with college apps...I did all my essays at the very last minute and they came out terribly. I think I had a lot to offer as an applicant in spite of my flaws, and could have gotten into Brown early, where I'm a legacy, if I had taken my app more seriously. My username aside, I'm not really torn up over Brown itself...I was more enraptured with the prospect of being an Ivy Leaguer than actually being at Brown, which was never the best fit for me anyway.</p>
<p>What I really want to do at this point is escape all my problems at home, all my embarassing regrets at school, and go somewhere where I can feel a sense of belonging and a total lack of self-consciousness. I don't think that there's a magical solution for this, and sorry to ***** and vent like this, but I was just wondering if any of the wise people that frequent this board could offer any advice for what to do and explain how to do it. </p>
<p>Aside from wanting general suggestions, I have a number of specific questions:</p>
<p>1) If I defer a year at Middlebury, can I reapply elsewhere?
2) How do I go about getting counselor recommendations and things like that again?
3) If 1 is possible, is it a better option than transferring?</p>
<p>If it means anything, I would love to go to Berkeley for strange, romantic, Benjamin Braddock-type reasons. I also would love to take another shot at Brown and Williams, the only two schools I liked more than Middlebury that rejected me. This isn't really about upgrading my school, though, and I'm open to attending any school I really feel comfortable at. I'm just trying to make the best of my situation in whatever way I can. Thank you.</p>