Over my head, is this not a string about a frat in Indiana? Or you just making universal observations? If so, then look for the section called global insights…
Nobody should have been forced to engage in the activity. If they were, it was patently wrong, and as others have suggested, illegal. Morally, this activity, if voluntary, should not be something that fraternities engage in, whether on-campus or off-campus. If performed as a fraternity activity, the students and chapter should be punished.
When I was in London, I witnessed a similar thing. A group of guys were at a table having a bachelor party. A woman walks in, starts her music, strips naked, pulls the guy’s pants down and has him sit in a chair. She continues her routine including sitting on his lap.
It was a Mexican restaurant with families present, though they did have it in the bar area. Apparently the British have exported most of their Puritans to the US. Here, there would have been outrage and arrests. In London, no outrage, no arrests, no huffing indignation that we saw.
I’m guessing that the same story (21 year-old birthday boy, stripper doing typical stripper stuff) played out in a different location would have been met with resigned indifference. I would also think that if the dean had heard a story about a stripper at a fraternity house rather than seeing a public video in all its graphic detail, it too would have been received indifferently.
I don’t think I would want to live in a community where this sort of thing was received as nonchalantly as @Magnetron describes in the London restaurant. The video was a real eye opener for me.
When I imagined what groups of men did together in settings like a frat house, I was thinking along the lines of the house being in shambles with lots of drinking, swearing, eating, horsing around, poker games and maybe at worse a pornographic movie. But the sort of thing depicted in the video is just depraved public debauchery. I hope the school makes a real effort to identify the upper classmen who were responsible for organizing this event and for retaining the women. They should be held accountable.
Hard to imagine how young people recover emotionally from this sort of thing - the men and the women alike.