<p>My child does well in school but is motivated by grades, not love of learning, and is not particularly curious intellectually. It seems that "intellectual curiosity" is something that private schools value. Is it a mistake to pursue private school when this quality is lacking? </p>
<p>My DD13 sounds like your son. She has been at an IB school from first grade and because of how the program insists on getting students to choose their own research topics from a very young age, she is capable of “thinking outside the box” when occasions call for it. She will now ask for my political opinions because her classmates were discussing certain issues. So for kids who are more goal/grades oriented, It may be a good thing to put them in an into an intellectual environment otherwise they wouldn’t think deeply on their own…</p>
<p>Private schools are so diverse. My impression is that most schools want kids who open to trying an array of opportunities and challenges, beyond just classroom intellectualism. If you look around, you may find a school that fits your son, especially if he has EC iinterests. If kids like a school, they will want to fit into that image… Positive peer pressure!</p>
<p>If your question is wondering how well your non intellectual child does as schools becomes more demanding, then I share your concern… My intellectually curious son retains knowledge and can build upon that and carry it into different arenas. My daughter forgets everything as soon as she gets that A on the exam… </p>
<p>Her BF’s mom says since my DD is good in math and goal oriented so she will do well in business! So there is hope for tjose like your son and my DD! </p>
<p>Thank you, Disneymama! Very helpful!</p>