Is anyone just not friends with their roommates?

<p>I completely disagree with coastingblue's assumptions.</p>

<p>I am a freshman. I kind of tried to make friends with my roommate, and he kind of tried to make friends with me earlier this year, but it was just too hard. What really got us is that we are just too different, our worldviews are different, and our personal habits are too different.</p>

<p>We would not be friends in any other world, so not in this one either.</p>

<p>That being said, we generally get along now. We both have made compromises, and I am not afraid of him nor him of me - I push him to change his habits, and he pushes me to change habits too.</p>

<p>However, some of my next door neighbors are my best friends.</p>

<p>Anyways, coastingblue is full of bull. Sorry to say that, but its true.</p>

<p>It's not bull, but it's not usually true. A lot of guys are like that, but more guys are a little more laid back, and maybe easy to rub the wrong way. Once a guy ****es me off, just by a single comment or tone of voice, I hate him. It takes very little. So male bonds aren't necessarily very strong, but they can be. Some guys get along with all other guys, and others only get along with guys with certain personalities.</p>

<p>"Once a guy ****es me off, just by a single comment or tone of voice, I hate him. It takes very little. "</p>

<p>wow. aim sounds like a ruthless sonofab*ch.</p>

<p>you don't hate me now that i said that do you?</p>

<p>i go to exeter (boarding school) and ive been best friends with my roommate. I fear that I'm expecting the same kind of experience in college and that I'll most probably be disappointed.</p>

<p>I don't hate you proton. I loathe you.</p>

<p>'Twas merely an exaggeration. But sometimes by tone of voice (usually sarcasm) I can tell when someone doesn't like me, and that sours me quite a bit. More often than not, it's someone I barely even know, so that makes it okay to not like them.</p>

<p>hate is fear and fear is hate</p>

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i go to exeter (boarding school) and ive been best friends with my roommate. I fear that I'm expecting the same kind of experience in college and that I'll most probably be disappointed.

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<p>Don't worry, needhelp06. It's a hit or miss type of situation, and no matter what, you'll probably have friends through any organizations you join or from your classes. Apparently, I'm in the minority in believing friendships can develop with roommates, and I'm an optimistic person, so I'll keep that outlook and so should you. It's not as bad as some people are saying, and you could very well end up being friends. Just know that even if you can't be friends with them, it's ok. The whole roommate situation isn't always so dim, and for every bad roommate story, there are a few good ones.</p>

<p>I'm only concerned that I will have a roommate majoring in drunkenness with a minor in beerology. That or Suzy Sunshine- a girl like that would drive me up the wall. Majorly perkiness just irks me. And I don't think that living with a drunkard would be pleasant.</p>

<p>as for now we're at the point that we get along but secretly we want to strangle each other, well i sure do...Now she's friends with my other friend and they hang out with each other and I'm now the third person.</p>

<p>Hey aim78 - I agree with you. I just dislike some people although they are similar to me - because they said one thing in bad faith. The only way the guy can undo this is by doing something right.</p>

<p>The thing about my roommate is that his culture is different from mine. We really just can't talk about stuff anymore, like we did in the first few weeks of school. But now its just grudging compromises, which is fine with me.</p>

<p>Basically, I do a lot of work and am out of the room doing stuff a lot, and he hangs out in the room and watches TV/listens to music a lot.</p>

<p>But I'm never out of my room because I want to escape him, anymore. I tried doing that at the beginning of the year, but realized I had to reclaim my room. So I did.</p>

<p>Ummm I don't like my roommate. Much at all. Oh well no biggie. He was passing by in the cafeteria right after someone asked who my roommate was. And I was like, "He's right there." And my friend laughed and said, "He didn't even say hi to you." Me: "Oh well" At first I really cared b/c after all we are kind of roommates. But now I could care less. I tried. I'm the nicer one. Big deal.</p>

<p>The roommates I’m currently living with right now - I am NOT close friends with them. We’re more like friendly acquaintances that’s all. The odd thing is, it’s not like they’re not nice or don’t try to include me in things. It just takes me some time to open up and now that I finally have, it seems like they’ve moved on. Also, we just don’t really have any connections and are just pretty different people in terms of interests and whatnot.</p>

<p>This thread is ancient. I never was close with either of my roommates. Still had an amazing year. It’s fine. Why has this been necro’d?</p>

<p>I was in middle school when this thread was created.</p>

<p>…I kind of feel like whoever necro’d this could have found a newer thread about a similar topic. I mean, it’s not like this is never discussed. I was also in middle school when this thread was created, lol.</p>

<p>Lol I was <em>barely</em> in middle school. Fresh outta elementary. Weird to think that most people who posted in here have now graduated college…</p>

<p>That last exchange made me feel old. I was in high school already. But my school district had some weird arrangments for schools.</p>

<p>I was in elementary school when this thread was created. Where do people find these threads to even revive them?</p>

<p>essceejay216- sometimes if you google these types of questions cc threads (even really old ones) pop up.
Yeah, i was in 2nd grade when this thread was created :/</p>

<p>How are you people in college?!?
This was six years ago. I’m only a rising junior and I was in elementary school last in 2001. (My elementary school only went to fourth grade)</p>