Re: whether colleges don’t like elite private schools anymore, there’s a lot to unpack on that idea. Below is my assessment, and I will be curious to look at the data over the past 5 years - once this year’s dust settles.
My kid goes to an elite private high school, and the trend toward less favored status in college admissions has been apparent for a while, even before he got there. The past couple years the trend has sped up.
From what people are saying, it is a national trend, not just our school. The mantra over in the cc prep school forum is “don’t send your kid to a boarding school for the purpose of getting into an ivy”. It is really good advice. People find it impossible to be true, though, buying into the lore that all it takes is a phone call and little Buffy is in at Harvard. That stuff doesn’t happen anymore.
It is super important to know that the prep schools got the memo along with the colleges - diversity matters. They admit a lot more extremely talented students from marginalized backgrounds than they used to. Those kids deservedly get into premier colleges. The athletes get recruited. The legacies have a leg up. The spikey-rock stars have a great shot. High performing stem girls have a leg up. There are plenty of prep school kids that will continue to get into the Ivies.
The unhooked kids who would have gotten the tip because of the name of the high school? That is what doesn’t happen anymore. Talented high performing students without a hook may instead end up at a tier down with merit awards (nothing to gripe about there). If families refuse to acknowledge the new admissions landscape the results could be devastating.
As is often said over in the prep school forum- colleges accept people not high schools. Being from a prep school itself isn’t what makes a person stand out in a crowd. There has to be something else.
For the class of 2022, the landscape has changed a lot since they applied to their high schools. Well rounded used to be the way to go, and many planned their high school life accordingly. Now it is all about the spike, and the well-rounded kids have an extra challenge. If you think about it, with grade inflation, gobs of applications and TO, colleges need a spike or a unique backstory to tell applicants apart. I get it. The pendulum will swing in the other direction someday.
In the meantime, as a parent of an unhooked, well-rounded kid who was disappointed this round but still has great options, I am truly grateful. There are worse things than learning you are strong enough to get through life not turning out like you envisioned - better to learn that lesson early. Not getting into an elite school is a less awful way of learning it than other options. We don’t live in Ukraine. I do think the pandemic has helped kiddo put this college stuff in perspective, too. Heck, because he was at a boarding school, he actually got to be in school in person far more than most. That’s real privilege.