<p>Last year I started college in new york city as a dance major. Though I love dance and have been dancing all my life I quickly realized I wanted to major in an academic field, specifically a field that was not offered at the mostly arts college. To improve my chances of getting into a new school for the fall of my sophomore year, I transferred to a local college near my house and lived at home for the spring of my freshman year. I successfully transferred to a great school with a great program and I have been here for 2 months and am just unhappy. I fit in well here and like the school and the people, I have a decent amount of friends, and mostly enjoy my classes but I just constantly find myself unhappy. When I was home in the spring I had an internship doing something I loved while I attended my classes and now that all I do is go to class, do hw and waste a ton of time, I feel like I am not fulfilled. I also really miss my boyfriend and family and just count down the days untill I can see them. I know going to college is about gaining independence and finding myself, but I feel like I've already done that and like I would just be happier at home. i also cant justify spending all most $60k a year to constantly feel unhappy. In a sense I feel like transferring back home signifies failure to the world but I know I would be so much happier. The own downside would be that the college at home is not as good as a school as I currently attend. Anyway, I considered spending the year here to give it time but the thought of that just depresses me so much. I find myself crying almost every day because I feel so unfilled and bored and just want to come home for good at the end of the semester. If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and help me with something that I just have no idea what to do.</p>
<p>To be fair, you have only been there 2 months and mighty try giving it more time. On the other hand, going away to college is not for everyone. We have 4 children, and 3 did very well going away to college. The 4th one is and has always been a real homebody. She had no desire to go away and decided to stay home her first 2 years. She did transfer for her last 2 years to a school 7 hours away but chose to live with friends from our area. She came back for her masters. She is now married and has a very tight group of friends and is very family oriented. They bought a house about 20 minutes away and we see them very often. </p>
<p>It is a very personal decision. If you continue to be unhappy there is nothing wrong with transferring to be closer to home.</p>
<p>No, going away to college isn’t for everyone, but I think keeping busy in college may make a world of difference for you. It sounds like you’re not doing anything that you find really exciting or fulfilling. Have you tried finding an internship near your school? Or perhaps you could volunteer with an organization you really care about?</p>