<p>Hi Everyone,
So I go to a four year state university that is only about an hour and a half from my home. The problem is, I miss home more than anyone can believe. I miss the comforts of home, my awesome family, my pets, and of course my own room and bathroom. I dwell on the fact that I don't live at home very often and it makes me very sad and depressed! I cry very regularly about this and my mom and family hate to see me so upset about it :/ I love school and learning and taking classes, but I just wish i could be home at my own house at night. By the way I am in my second semester of my sophomore year. I sent in an application for another state university that is only a half hour away from my home, and I'm thinking about transferring there and commuting from home next year. I really need some advice and want to know what everyone thinks about this idea. I know I would be so much happier and more comfortable at home but I still want to know what people think! Thank you so much.</p>
<p>If it will make you happier and you can continue your education, go for it!</p>
<p>You might want to see if your school offers some sort of counseling services. What are your plans two years from now when you graduate? Do you want to stay living in your parents’ house forever?</p>
<p>I was going to ask the same as RacinReaver. Everyone likes the comforts of a comfortable home, with mom’s good cooking, clean clothes at the ready, nice furnishings, etc. The fact is though, that you need to grow up. And most young people starting out have to live below the comforts they were used to. It took years for your parents to achieve their lifestyle, and it will take a while for you to get where you want to be. Family is always there long-distance, for you to return to when you need to periodically. But, as you grow and mature, you are supposed to go out to make it on your own, and eventually establish your own family if that is what you want. It would be a better growth experience for you to continue living on your own, with family support and visits home, rather than to just run back to the safety and security of being the child 24/7. Why DON"T you want your own space? Maybe think about that a little. Don’t be like Howard from Big Bang Theory!</p>
<p>Are the universities of comparable quality?</p>
<p>Yes they are</p>
<p>I agree that it is difficult to leave your parents’ house, but I also do believe that college is a great transition period in which you learn to live by yourself and accept that you cannot stay at home with your parents for the rest of your life. I’d say that before you transfer to the school closer to home, try seeing a school counselor and finding some sort of support group that can help you with the transition. And the fact that you’re not TOO far from home means if you really do feel the need to go home, you can get there.</p>
<p>Parent here. Did you know that about 50% of college students live at home according to a study done last year? I know that would probably surprise many people.</p>
<p>You mention feeling sad and depressed. You could actually be suffering from depression. You might want to talk to your parents about getting screened for this.</p>
<p>Have you been going home on weekends since you’re only 1-1/2 hours away? If you have and you’re still homesick, then maybe it would be best to transfer to the school closer to home and commute. Since you’ve been at your school for 1-1/2 years, this should have given you adequate time to get over the typical freshman homesickness. There’s nothing wrong with the fact that you don’t feel ready to be away from your family yet.</p>
<p>Then what do you think are the downsides of transferring?</p>
<p>This made me feel much better…thank you</p>
<p>What did you decide to do?</p>