<p>Well, I will be the first to say that I am shy as hell (I've gotten much better than say... Frosh at least :-p). I am not the type of guy who can simply go up to a crush and ask them out off the bat. A few of my friends (girls) have told me that they find guys being shy a turn-off... so I was curious, this question is open for everyone, is it really such a turn off?</p>
<p>I would think so. From both perspectives, it would be difficult to maintain a relationship when one of the individuals can't maintain a conversation. A healthy relationship can't be built on ackward silence.</p>
<p>Absolutely, dude, girls aren't going to ask you out unless you're like Brad pitt or something. You gotta grow some balls and go up to a girl and say "Hey baby, its your lucky day cuz I'm available tonight!!!"</p>
<p>Yes! first girl on here! haha..anyways...
I don't think I would be as upfront as evil...I mean, not all girls like that stuff. Confidence can play a big part but haughtiness not so much.</p>
<p>Exactly how shy are you? There are different levels of shyness you know.</p>
<p>shy girls are hott... boys i dont think soo much</p>
<p>yeah i find some moderate shy guys sexy
my ages-ago bf was quite shy and like, in the start, I had to try to talk to him and everything and at the end, he opened up (a little) and he was sooo funny and he wasn't over-confident (bigggg turnoff) and he was so.. fun to be around. He kinda reminds me of Seth Cohen from the OC.</p>
<p>but extremely shy guys make me wonder why I'm even trying to develop a conversation with them</p>
<p>Yes...moderately shy guys can be seen as mysterious sometimes, but uber-shy guys are hard to approach. Uber-shy as in, won't-even-speak-to-you-when-you-say-hi kind of shy. If you can say hi (first!) to a girl without cracking up then I think you are okay.</p>
<p>yeah, sorry, shyness is a turn-off, from personal experience</p>
<p>" Absolutely, dude, girls aren't going to ask you out unless you're like Brad pitt or something. You gotta grow some balls and go up to a girl and say "Hey baby, its your lucky day cuz I'm available tonight!!!" "</p>
<p>so not true. I hope you were joking.</p>
<p>It depends on how shy you are. if you are incredibly shy and won't open up at all, then I consider it a bad thing. If you are a bit shy, making you to be mysterious, then it's good. girls, or at least me, likes challenges but they don't want to work too hard, unless you're REALLY hot, then perhaps... haha jk? the key thing is if you're shy, don't be boring. as long as you're interesting to be around, then it really won't matter who starts the conversation first.</p>
<p>I've given one shy guy a chance.</p>
<p>He was so shy he put a note in my backpack to proclaim his love for me. I had a crush on him anyways, so I told him so. It was really...what's the word...almost AWKWARD, because he wouldn't initiate anything...physical or conversational. It dragged on for about 5 months, and it was mainly us staring at each other like love-stricken puppies on the bus. Work up some courage.</p>
<p>EDIT: although once we DID start talking (this happened like twice) he turned out to be very interesting and kind of funny.</p>
<p>personally i just am not attracted to shy guys. although it could be because i'm a little shy sometimes so if the guy doesnt initiate things in the first place then im certainly not going to. i need someone who's outgoing so i'll feel comfortable opening up too. but that's just me</p>
<p>Man... I just read the word "shy guy" a bunch of times and the only thing coming into my head is the character from Mario.</p>
<p>Oh, for the record I am not that shy (anymore.. lol ^_^), but I was just curious since... I dunno, sometimes I see the shy guys could be the nicest.</p>
<p>@GoldShadow
Oh my friggen god I just thought about that roflmao.. XD</p>
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<p>how can you have a perspective on both...?</p>
<p>Shy girls are so annoying. I want a girl with confidence, poise, and intelligence.</p>
<p>haha spets!</p>
<p>Aaugh, shyness. I have a crush on a REALLY shy guy. It's bad. He's incredibly smart (all AP's, finished with math type), and talks a ton online to me, and says he thinks I'm really interesting and cool. But at school ... he's practically mute! I mean, if I say "hi" he'll sort of wave back, but he always looks really afraid to talk.</p>
<p>Actually, he did try to talk to me today in the library. He walked over and I said "hi" and he just sort of ... stared at me and I think he was trying to start a conversation? We'll walk in the hall, and if I don't talk then it will be a dead silent walk to the NHS meeting.</p>
<p>So, guys: Girls (at least I do) love a shy, genius guy ... but if you can't even start a conversation IRL like my current love interest, it makes us girls very sad. :( !!! We like it when you talk to us, we feel special when you do that!</p>
<p>LOL maverach! Your previous boyfriend sounds just like the guy I'm interested in. Whhhy am I always attracted to the impossible ones? Whyy?</p>
<p>(Because he's just so cute and asian and mysterious and smart! Wauggh!!)</p>
<p>Don't worry, Tooya!
As long as you're cute, your shyness is adorable to me! :)</p>
<p>I think for a lot of girls, yes. It is a turn off. But for some of us, we like it. If a shy guy liked me, I would ask him out but I'd have to know that he liked me because I don't want to waste my time.</p>
<p>Hey, Tooya. You know how they say quiet girls are the freakiest ones? Well I know that's true ;) But is it the same for guys?</p>
<p>Oh my god... TOOYA most certainly is freaky!</p>
<p>He's my best pal =) Been best friends since freshman year of highschool... and I've been telling him everything that you all have been telling him. He just doesnt like listening to me... that's all.</p>
<p>Finally... other people tell him what the truth is!!</p>
<p>Haha, just teasing you tooya.</p>
<p>Anyway, Tyler's fortunately in a beautiful relationship right now... because he hasnt been the "shy guy' for a while. He's actually been a wild kid, to everyone, except for those who he has huge crushes on. He didnt tell you that, now did he? lol.</p>
<p>Anyway... Tooya's more outgoing than the more normal human being... he just gets all shy around his girlfriend... and starts... blushing whenever anyone says anything.</p>
<p>Sorry to nark you out bro =) </p>
<p>peace.</p>