<p>im in my first year of cegep. in two years ill be going to mcgill, which is a majority commuter school. i dont live that far from the university, 30 mins at the most, but something about living at home in my same old small room and with my family (especially my mom whos a housemom) really does NOT appeal to me. i want to enjoy myself, and i feel that it would be worth it to pay to live in residence (my own money that ill save up in the next two summers) to have a much better social life, meet so many more people and have fun.</p>
<p>ive done research on residence at mcgill. its only for 1st years, costs about 6k$, tons of freedom at the dorm im thinking of going to. it seems like they really like to have fun, everyones social people are always doing something... damn having my own room would be so much more convenient... just the thought of living on my own makes me so excited.</p>
<p>bringing back a friend or girl back to my place in my small room with my small sized bed and my mom thats home all the time and my 11 year old brother and my dad etc just doesnt appeal to me.. i want freedom, and i want to do things without being asked hey what are you doing? i dont want to be questioned. i just mean i want privacy away from the people who have put annoying (imo) attention on me for my entire life.</p>
<p>what do you think?</p>
<p>am i an idiot?</p>
<p>edit: forgot to add that after 1st year at rez, id probably move into an apartment with a good friend or whatever that i made at the rez; a friend for life.</p>
<p>Can you reasonably afford to live in the dorms? If your parents decide not to pay for your dorming experience, are you willing to take out loans to cover it on your own? I would talk to your parents about your concerns. Also, have you figured out how much it will cost to commute? There will be some cost to commuting at least in terms of fuel and repairs.</p>
<p>yeah i can pay for it, and i want to. commuting from home or the dorm are both negligible. dorm would be like 10 minute walk, and home would be 30 minute commute. id probably get a 30$/month student buss pass either way though. negligible.</p>
<p>can you offer insight on actual dorms/rez as well?</p>
<p>I don’t attend Mcgill, but I did choose to attend a school that required me to dorm (about 5 hours from my parents’ house). I like it because it’s my own space. It’s much easier for me to set my own schedule and it did teach me to be more self-sufficient. I know people that commute from their parents’ house, and I can also see the benefit in that. They don’t have to eat in the cafeteria and they have the comforts of living at home. But, commuters also have to deal with less privacy at home, the commute/weather, and working around their commuting schedules to get work done. Personally, I’m glad I chose to go away to school because I find it difficult to live with my parents. I think living on campus is convenient because the academic buildings are close by, I can study in the library when I want, go out if I want, etc. No one is here to question me, but that also means that I am fully accountable for all of my actions. If I don’t do something properly or if I procrastinate, that’s my own issue. </p>
<p>If you do end up living at home, I don’t think it will be the worst thing. There are some benefits to living at home, but there are also benefits in student housing. I personally wouldn’t want to live at home, but every person is different.</p>
<p>i also feel the same way you do nybmc, but i dont want to have to pick a university thats away from my house. i like mcgill. i just feel guilty about wanting to pay for my own residence just because i know many other people would find it stupid to do so. i still really want to though.</p>
<p>I think it is a pretty good idea for freshman year. You will meet more freshman, won’t miss impromptu hall activities and save time. After the first year you will have a good network and will know if is worth it to you.</p>
<p>I feel like the only negative factor impacting my decision is the money. money,money,money…
i have so much to gain. screw the money. im in no rush to save money for anything. im here living to have a good time and enjoy myself, and thats exactly what i intend 2 do</p>
<p>You can try to dorm your first year and see how you like it.</p>
<p>I commute an hour each way (sometimes more if there’s some sports game in Seattle). Granted, I pay my own way and don’t have enough money after tuition to live on campus, but if I had that choice, I would still be happy living that far away. I think it really depends. I was lucky to be in a department already so I made a lot of friends, freshmen, upperclassmen, grad students, etc … with very similar interests. </p>
<p>However, if I was still undeclared in terms of major, I would have probably loved to have lived on campus to get to know people.</p>
<p>first off, how do departments work exactly? how can you “be in one”, and how specifically do i need to know what i want to be later on in life?
fyi, i originally thought i wanted to be a doctor or something (although deep in my mind i always knew it wasnt for me), but now i realize im just going to study pure and applied in cegep instead of health science (its not too late to switch, the only difference in classes is near the last 2 [3rd n 4th] semesters). not quite sure what i want to study, electrical engineering maybe, im not sure yet, ill try and look into it once my finals are done.</p>
<p>i havent talked about it much with my parents although i have brought it up. they dont seem to mind - my mom lived quite far from mcgill when she went there so she got an apartment, and my dad lived with his parents until he was like 23 or something and my mom makes fun of him for it.</p>
<p>i feel like if i did it successfully, theyd be proud of me. it would also be one less hassle for them :P</p>
<p>i feel as if (this is what im thinking itll be like) you just go to class each day by commuting, you meet people but they only really become acquaintances for IN CLASS as everyones always doing something and some are still sticking with their high school group of friends.</p>
<p>at rez i can see myself going out on a thursday if i have no work to do as would other people. at my home i cant see myself doing that. on weekends at rez i can see myself having a great time and having no one to question me. at home, i feel like my parents would just Get in the way.</p>
<p>im going to be moving out eventually anyways, and ill definitely have more fun and freedom then. whats saving money now by staying at home going to help me acquire thats truly better than simply having a great time? i can save up for a house? do i even need to think about this yet? a car in the city? no thank you. clothing? on sale.</p>
<p>i feel like i dont value money as much as other people do, but should i really?</p>
<p>edit: forein - im ready. i just feel guilty about this kind of decision because everyones telling me to save the money. for what, though? they never say for what…</p>
<p>I can’t wait to move and it takes maybe 30 minutes on Bart to get to UC Berkeley but I’m not sure i wanna go…in the U.S. there’s, studio apartments </p>
<p>Well, I hate living on campus. There’s no privacy, the walls are thin and you can hear people talking, laughing, singing, watching TV (especially since COD came out), gargling, etc. at all hours. Yes, it should make it easier to meet people but it really depends on the other person, not just your excitement. I have commuted for a year as well and I loved it. There was a lot more freedom in that than there is living on campus (maybe that’s because I go to school in a college town and since McGill is a commuter school it may be different).</p>
<p>Also, don’t assume that you’re going to make a bestie at college that you’d want to live with the following year. Not all BFFs make good roommates and not all good roommates/floormates are going to be your BFF, either.</p>
<p>good to know, but nonetheless im sure ill make good friends with some people, and im sure other people will be getting apartments since rez is only for first years. it would just be convenient, and cheaper - im just sure id find someone.</p>
<p>why dont you join in on the fun that seems to be happening? whats interfering? what kinda person are you that doesnt let you get along with them?</p>
<p>Unless it would be a financial burden, I recommend living on campus at least your first year. Your experience there will be invaluable. Even if you have issues with a roommate, it is a learning experience. Being there on campus will allow, encourage and even push you into being more involved with others on campus. Plus it will help you grow more independent without being too far from your family.
My son was in a dorm his first year but moved into a condo with a friend for his second year that was away from campus. There were many things he missed being away from campus that would have been easy to participate had he been closer-they just weren’t the effort to drive and find a parking spot. Year 3 he has moved into a 7 bedroom house 1 block from campus. The best of both worlds! He was the one who organized the rental so had the opportunity to decide who his roommates would be.</p>
<p>^^It has nothing to do with “not getting in on the fun.” I get along with my floormates just fine. Always have. That’s not to say that I like dorming better than commuting. I met great friends commuting. </p>
<p>Just because I’m not crazy in love with living in a dorm doesn’t mean it has something to do with conflict I have with other people. I just liked commuting better. I had a lot of freedom at home that I don’t have here. A lot of the times people assume that dorming is the next step to living on your own when that’s not necessarily always the case.</p>
<p>Judging from your posts, I don’t think you are mature enough to live on residence by yourself. Not only is it a complete waste of money, which is evidence of a lack of experience in managing finances that a mature person would have, but also you seem to be influenced by what people think of your decision. </p>
<p>^^ good to know, i guess it just depends on what ur looking for. im looking to get away from my house. i just want to be on my own. its undeniably a step closer to moving out, and from what ive found out it seems like a lot of fun. idk how u cant agree that it is moving out.
also, its going to be like in 2 years… so until then.</p>