Is it okay if I take another class with a grad instructor that had a crush on me?

Parents Forum
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<p>Is it okay if I take another class with a grad instructor that had a crush on me? It's been 1.5 yrs since the last class I took with her. 6 months ago she was walking with her friend toward me about 15 yrds way and I heard her say, "Hey, it's [my name]! I had a crush on him!" She's 25, I'm 20.</p>

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<p>Didn’t you get the responses you wanted in your other thread? <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1374980-okay-if-i-take-another-class-grad-instructor-had-crush-me.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1374980-okay-if-i-take-another-class-grad-instructor-had-crush-me.html&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>Thought I’d get more answers here from people that aren’t in college or just entering college.</p>

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<p>What evidence do you have that she really has/had a crush on you? Just that overheard mention? Sounds more like an idyll comment, not like a serious crush to me, and if it wasn’t something she said to you or obviously where you would overhear, it doesn’t count as sexual harassment. Take the class if you want to/need to. If anything inappropriate happens, ask her to stop.</p>

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<p>If you take the class, it would be unethical to become involved with her.</p>

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<p>If she said “had a crush” on you perhaps the crush doesn’t exist anymore, she didn’t say “have a crush.” Regardless it is unethical to become involved with her if you take the class as toledo points out. Make your decision based on the class and class time. Do you need this class? Is it at a good time to fit your schedule?</p>

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<p>If she acted in a professional manner toward you in the first class, there’s no reason to assume she wouldn’t act the same in the second class.</p>

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<p>Ask yourself honestly – you don’t need to share answers to any of this with the parents on this board. Did it seem like a lighthearted, kidding comment? Or did it seem like somebody trying to flirt with you, expressing interest to see if it’s reciprocated? Do you sense anything menacing or coercive about the way you might be treated? Or, at the other end of the spectrum, is there a chance that she will be distant and aloof in her instructional capacity, less accessible to you instructionally, because of awkwardness or embarrassment over any personal feelings and what was said? Did she have any idea that you might take a second course with her, when she made the comment? Are you specifically interested in the material, or are you somewhat intrigued by her, or intrigued by the possibility of someone in her position having a crush on you? Have you thought about how many crushes she may have, and a significant other in her life that may go above and beyond all crushes?</p>

<p>It is not a bad thing to be liked, but you don’t want to be in a position where you are coerced or avoided because of personal feelings. Nor should you want to try to exploit an inside track or advantage that you may seem have over other students in the course. It’s not only wrong, it can backfire.</p>

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<p>Okay, thank you for your advice.</p>