<p>My best friend and I will both be attending UC Berkeley this fall as freshmen. </p>
<p>We are talking about signing up to be roomates next year. What do you think about this idea? </p>
<p>Some people have said that it can destroy your relationship or inhibit one from reaching out. </p>
<p>I wanted to get some different perspectives. Any help would be appreciated.</p>
<p>of course it's a good idea. i would give an arm and a leg to be roommate with charizardpal...</p>
<p>You guys have some problems...^</p>
<p>Oh yes, room with your friend.</p>
<p>Yeah off course you should score with your roomate! I bet it'd be easier to round the bases and propose to her too. But don't spend any money on a ring-give her a plastic ring...or one of those cool bamboo ones. Or an onion ring/a thread. </p>
<p>For your wedding you should put on some weird song like "The Child Inside" or some Japanese Anime Song for your wedding. Make that song 'your song' and play it when you walk into church instead of that usual piano song. And if you have a reception/dancing, have that song loop. Do all this and you'll have a happier life with your in-laws.</p>
<p>Don't do it, I've heard it's a bad idea. Think of it this way, if you end up fighting all the time, then you could very well lose a friend. But if you fight with a randomly assigned roommate, well then you're not friends with a stranger. If I knew someone going to my college this fall I for sure wouldn't request them to be my roommate. Also I think it could limit how many new friends you make right away at college.</p>
<p>It is ultimately up to you and will take some soul-searching. Have you guys ever spent long periods of time together (as in at least a week living in the same place)? If you have, look to that and your feelings about it for an assessment as to how it'll go with your friend.</p>
<p>I don't recommend it. Dealing with problems with a friend is difficult, and sharing a small living space with someone will invariably lead to some problems. It does also, indeed, limit your interactions. You might be less likely to strike out because you are comfortable doing what you and your friend have always done, especially when you guys will be able to see when someone goes where and what they've been doing.</p>
<p>I would say you have to be VERY good friends to manage that. I roomed with friends in an apartment (shared a room with one) and though we ultimately became closer friends, there were a number of pretty big fights that nearly ended our friendship.</p>
<p>i would say no, just because the first week is so crucial in making new friends, and you will be less inclined to reach out because you will not be forced to. maybe you could solve the problem by agreeing with them not to be in your room/talk to them for the first few weeks to maximize the number of friends you make, but that seems a bit extreme...</p>
<p>An okay or good friend is the best roommate, I don't think a best friend is good. Have you been to their room, do you know their sleeping habits, etc?</p>
<p>My roommate and I have known each other since 7th grade - we took all the same classes in highschool, spent freshman year in college in different halls of the same dorm, but then spent last summer working together for 40 hours a week every week, and now we've spent sophomore year rooming together.</p>
<p>While we were never best friends, I suppose we have become closer, but at the same time his little quirks and whatnot have become annoying, and we lose things to talk about quickly.</p>
<p>I'd recommend you and your friend trying to get in the same dorm but different hallways... that way you can be a part of two social networks.</p>
<p>well, for most people its not a good idea cuz an average person is so intolerant of others and can't stand people (or they have this silent treatment)....but for gus like us (charizard and sauron) we can tolerate each other no matter what. we would never sestroy each other!! we would collaborate to achieve what we want (which are the same: submissive girls, japanese bookstores, museums, asian stores)...</p>
<p>Thanks for the feedback everyone. This definetly helps. </p>
<p>We decided to ask for the same dorm, but to have different roomates.</p>
<p>i wouldn't. i was going to but then i realized that i would cling :D but if you can handle not being clingy, you should be fine.</p>
<p>Yes, do it. When I first went to college, I didn't want to room with my friend because I also heard that it can ruin your relationship, keep you introverted, etc. I got stuck with a big, loud, obnoxious partier my freshman year and was miserable. The next year, I got an apartment with some friends and had the time of my life.</p>
<p>Ya all of these people saying that rooming with your friend is a bad idea are...well, they have no concept of friendship.</p>
<p>Not rooming with a friend because of possible conflicts is the worst idea I've ever heard. Hey, maybe you shouldn't even go to college due to all of the conflicts you are going to have...</p>
<p>If this person is really your friend, rooming with them will be no problem. You will enhance your relationship and HEY, GUESS WHAT? You will STILL meet new people!! OMG, people actually talking to other people even though they room with their friend!! </p>
<p>Wow^</p>
<p>It is an excellent idea and you won't have to put up with the ******** of some total stranger living with you.</p>
<p>While if you guys are good friends, you probably wouldn't end your friendship over it, rooming with a friend can still easily lead to conflicts. One of my best friends since 1st grade has possibly the opposite living habits I do. He listens to music when he works, I like silence, he sleeps a lot more than I do, he likes to keep his room MUCH neater than I do, etc. While we are civilized enough to keep our friendship, neither one of us would ever enjoy sharing a room with the other. Maybe if your school does TOTALLY random room assignments it's worth it, but at my school, you fill out a sheet of questions and they match you based on that. In my dorm of people, i'd say there were 2 bad matches, 1 pretty much simply on character, not living habits, the other on both.</p>
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<p>I roomed with someone from high school who was so sweet, nice, caring, and everything you want in a roommate.</p>
<p>Second semester, she medically withdrew 5 weeks out from the end of the semester due to a physchological breakdown. Like, totally depressed and totally went nuts. </p>
<p>And this was all after she put me through 4 weeks of hell dealing with her depression and breaking up with her boyfriend (he dumped her because of her depression) and her drinking and hooking up with random guys and basically always being depressed.</p>
<p>Don't do it. Even if you don't room together, you'll still be able to see each other whenever. And most likely, one of you will have a roommate that never stays in the room so there's ample sleep-over time.</p>
<p>...poor reason. That was completely random that she had a breakdown; happens to many people.</p>
<p>You'll have plenty of opportunities to meet new people. I think it's nice that you've got someone you know with you... rooming together is a great idea - you're sure to get along with your roomate!</p>
<p>put my vote in the "bad idea" group.</p>
<p>HS students aren't used to sharing a room, so if they room with a stranger they are usually respectful of each other which makes it work out ok. You don't need to be good friends with your roomate, its just a shared living situation. Of course many roomates do become good friends.</p>
<p>The problem with HS friends is three-fold. First since you already know each other them its easy to for them to assume you'd be ok with stuff you pause before doing with a stranger -- borrowing things without asking, having people over at all hours, etc. This causes friction, and I've seen it happen.</p>
<p>Second, college is a time many people reinvent themselves. Most HS's are insular and you see the same people who you've known forever. In college you can break out of the mold everyone saw you in back in HS, but having a friend in your room who knew you one way and wants you to stay that way can cause problems. After all the point of rooming together was to get a known quantity, but what if you want to change things about yourself?</p>
<p>Third, it is easier at the start of school to hang out with a familiar friend (who's always there in your room) then to go out and meet strangers. At least one comfortable area in your life. Unfortunately this is the worst thing you can do socially, because it is precisely at the start when everyone else is feeling those same worries and most open to making new friends.</p>
<p>I don’t think its a good idea. You two need to branch out and find your own friends. You won’t feel the pressure to do this if you room together. You should stay in either different dorms or a different hallway in the same dorm. You can always room together next year once you had the experience of meeting new people.</p>