<p>I am wondering that could the students creat an account in student account for their parents to monitor their performance? Or is there an account which is for parents to know child’s academic and other performance such as whether register classes or not, what kind classes were chosen, etc. If yes, what the name of it? How to creat it?</p>
<p>Not really - your child is an adult now and your access is really limited. There is an option where you can see financial information, but not grades, courses, etc. To be honest, my kids have given me their passwords, so I do have access to all of that information, but I do not abuse that privelege. I mostly use it to help with scheduling and to get the degree audit report, along with financial info and to see if there are any holds on their account. They have actually appreciated my help with scheduling.</p>
<p>What @Bearvet said is very true. Most school leave it up to the student to decide. However, if you or another member of your family is fronting the bill, you can always say that in order to keep their car, have certain amenities etc., they need to show you grades.</p>
<p>I had my son’s user/pass and would check Carmen for his grades during the year when he was a freshman. Stopped checking after I saw he had a handle on things. Plan on doing the same for my daughter this year along with help scheduling. I used rate my professor for my son freshman year and it was a big help</p>
<p>There is a reason why the term “helicopter parent” has such negative connotations: it’s because such parenting is extremely detrimental to your child’s development. I don’t know why any parent needs to monitor their college-age kid’s grades via online grade access. If you trust your kid enough to send him/her to college I would suggest you trust them enough to let them figure out how to succeed without you micromanaging their affairs. </p>
<p>Also it’s not unusual for the first couple of grades in a class to be really poor, while the student struggles with a new subject and a new professor with their own individual expectations. But then once the student catches on it’s very possible the student will finish with an A at the end of the semester - especially since many professors will throw out one low grade and/or curve the grading scale. </p>
<p>So why cause your student additional stress by monitoring their grades? </p>
<p>Assuming you’re paying you have every right to set certain (reasonable) performance expectations, such as a minimum GPA. But let your student show you the grades at the end of the semester when grades are finalized. Treat your kid with respect and let them develop the maturity and independence they need to become a successful, independent and self-reliant adult. </p>
<p>I guess my bad patenting resulted in a detrimental big 4 accounting job offer this past year. Unfortunately my son will be scarred for life now.</p>
<p>Every kid is different. My daughter has always been an independent, self motivated, kid who keeps track of everything. She could always be trusted to organize her own schedule and monitor her own grades (she’s harder on herself than I could ever be on her). She kept me informed of the things I needed to know and let me know in advance when she needed something for school. I monitored her grades in high school only casually, just so I could spot if there was a significant problem (there wasn’t). She’s heading off to college this fall and I have no desire to monitor. I just asked her to do her best, take advantage of resources if she’s struggling, and let me know as soon as possible if there’s a serious problem so we can figure it out together before it spirals out of control. She’s already talking about researching alternate book sources and using ratemyprofessor to tweak her schedule once she signs up for classes at orientation. I am very confident in her ability to recover from mistakes and learn and grow without a firm guiding hand.</p>
<p>My son, on the other hand, struggles with organization and general life skills. He just came out of freshman year of high school with a 2.9 gpa, having failed to do the vast majority of homework all year. I stupidly left it up to him to “sink or swim”, treating him like my daughter. But he’s not her. He’s incredibly bright, testing significantly higher than my daughter (98+ percentile in every area), but he struggles with motivation, organization, and “life” skills. He forgets to tell me things, forgets about big projects until the last minute, forgets to turn in assignments even after doing them, and will often feel overwhelmed if something derails him from his intended path. He’s also incredibly socially awkward, to the point that he would rather take an F than talk to a teacher and ask if he can turn an assignment in late.</p>
<p>My goal this year is to teach him how to keep track of things and work with and around his weaknesses. We’re also working on social skills like approaching teachers and how to barrel through the awkwardness. I am also incredibly socially awkward, but I have the benefit of decades of coping skills, so hopefully I can help him learn from all of my experience in that area.</p>
<p>While I’m doing that, I’ll also be closely monitoring his grades and assignments (not <em>for</em> him, but as a back up to what he’s doing) so that something small doesn’t spiral to something huge (like his F in 2nd quarter history this year) because he got too overwhelmed by being behind and gave up. When he goes to college, he might need a helping hand that first year, just to stay motivated/focused while he gets his bearings in a new world and learns new life skills. I don’t know that he will, but he might, and I won’t feel guilty for requiring him to give me access to his grades so that I can be that distant watchful eye for him if I feel it’s necessary. </p>
<p>I do agree that “helicopter parenting” can be taken to extremes, but I also think we have to recognize that people are individuals and what works for some may not work for others. My daughter needs/needed us to be hands-off so she could take control of everything herself and get it done her way. So that’s what we did and that’s what we’ll do as she goes away to college. My son needs help learning to control his chaotic disorganization and in learning how to develop social and life skills, so I’m helping, even if that means looking like a helicopter parent to someone from the outside. I called his counselor this year and made them put him back in honors/ap classes even though he didn’t get the GPA requirement because I know where he’s struggling and what he’s capable of. He wanted to continue in honors/ap, for the record. I didn’t just force it on him. Good parenting isn’t always hands-off and it isn’t always hands-on and sometimes the line between being a “helicopter” and just being a supportive parent can be a thin one.</p>