<p>it's like this: if your profs care about you and are convinced that you're worthy of attention, they'll let you turn in assignments late. Oftentimes, they'll let you turn multiple assignments in late (I know one person who actually did that).</p>
<p>and they're willing to discuss minutae over your assignment too... It's almost as if they are willing to become tutors for you. </p>
<p>in the highly impersonal university, you may best be advised to seek the attention of a professor early on and to take fewer classes just for more extended interaction with the professor. most of what you learn will come through self-study anyways (especially later in life) and interactions with professors are just so rewarding..</p>
<p>I guess it's easier for some profs than others. It seems that numerous profs don't advise any undergrad students and so it's easier to bond with such undergrads. Especially in some of the smaller departments.</p>
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I once failed to finish a research project and told the prof that I didn't have the time to do any more work on it (it was the second, I really didn't do that much work on the first..). He e-mailed me back, telling me that it's okay, that homework should come first, and that I should come visit him sometime. I didn't visit him. I don't know... I was just in so much emotional distress and self-pity that I couldn't stand visiting him again. </p>
<p>...another prof actually offered to exchange book recommendations with me... too bad i bailed out because i make so many stupid decisions... I e-mailed and met with him earlier this year and he still cared about me. He knew that I moved to a different area, but he still told me that I could come by anytime just to talk about things.</p>
<p>now I'm on a third prof. I still haven't done anything exceptional research wise. But they're so friendly. It makes me cry. I mean okay,</p>
<p>it's weird that i'm hitting reply when in fact all i can do is commentate on these rambling muses you thought were so important you had to immortalize on an internet forum.</p>
<p>i give this a whopping D-. definitely a "will not read again". </p>
<p>P.S. saying you're unsure of your gender does not make you deep or interesting at all; if you said that irl i'd be utterly confused and slightly repulsed.</p>
<p>it's not like IK is dealing with anything deep here at all. it's a cliche'd emotion if anything. "oh, dear, he/she wants me to spend time with him/her, but i cannot or do not want to visit him. oh, the injustice!"</p>
<p>IK's comments on this subject are melodramatic and shallow at best, and i believe he could have done better to provoke some kind of insightful thinking.</p>
<p>My comments are melodramatic here. I actually posted them here to reveal the stupidity of my past thinking. I've made a lot of stupid decisions in the past and it sometimes just does me good to just reveal some of my thoughts, perhaps to provoke me to change.</p>
<p>btw I'm kind of jaded here by now - so I'm not in the mood of making thoughtful posts like I used to.</p>
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In fact, I'll be so bold as to say that there are only four reasons to say something. That it's nice ("Gee, what a lovely shirt!"), funny ("Why did all the women love Jesus..."), interesting ("The plastic piece that keeps your shoelaces from fraying is called an aglet"), or useful ("If you don't clean your pots after you use them, the crud will bake on and it will be very hard to clean later"). The truth, as it turns out, is as often needlessly mean and useless ("Three years ago, when we were dating, I cheated on you with your best friend right before we broke up") as it is valuable ("That girl has a history of abusing her partners").
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<p>Don't say stuff to people unless others might be interested in hearing it. Venting is the purpose of journals (not "blogs", as you seem to call yours: "blog" presupposes that it's on a subject of general or topical interest. Remember that you are only interesting to yourself and those</a> you have tamed.).</p>
<p>thanks for the observations and links fizix. you're wonderful. :)</p>
<p>(although the cafe is kind of weird since we tend to post those types of posts for no reason at all here :p). [perhaps hoping for the once-in-a-while helpful reply].</p>
<p>i'm a quite-possibly-insane sixteen-year-old girl. what do you expect?</p>
<p>see, this is why we're not supposed to be talking. we will end up flirting and falling in love again. and then i'll grow some common sense and realize this is a bad thing and i'll break up with you again. it's so predictable.</p>