It's normal to not have close friends at this point, right?

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<p>I know I shouldn't really be comparing myself to others, but I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance. Anyway...</p>

<p>My entire dorm floor is pretty friendly, although there are 10-15 people who I personally have gotten a little more comfortable with. Unless a small group of 2 or 3 people has specific plans, most social gatherings consist of anyone who wants to join. My roommate and I get along and will talk on and off throughout the day when we're both in the room. I've also talked to a few people in my classes.</p>

<p>However, I still don't feel close to anyone. I can make conversation--and we're past just school conversation and small talk--but I'm definitely not at the point where I would go to them with a serious problem, nor am I at the point where we can be really silly together.</p>

<p>I have some friends at other schools who say they're making closer friends, but I'm not sure whether they mean actual close friends, or just people who they talk to more often... and I don't want to ask and seem like I'm interrogating them.</p>

<p>So... what do you think? Does this sound like normal?</p>

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<p>Is this your freshman year? If so, DON’T WORRY. Developing friendships – especially good ones – will take more than a couple of weeks. And it takes effort, chemistry, bonding. </p>

<p>My “closest” friends I made in the first month of my freshman year ended up becoming someone I just knew, and my actual closest friends for my first year were people I just said hi to my first month or two. That being said, just socialize and talk and do your own thing. Friendships will fall into place the way they were meant to be.</p>

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<p>Yes.</p>

<p>I don’t even talk to most of the people I considered friends freshman year. </p>

<p>Just go with whatever you’re comfortable with. No pressure really.</p>

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<p>My D just started her freshman year a couple weeks ago. She is at a small private school very far from home. She lucked out being in a triple with 2 girls she loves. They are already very close. This is not typical. Most of her friends who stayed in-state at large publics are hanging out with people they knew in HS and gradually expanding their circle. </p>

<p>Once you find the groups and activities you really want to commit to, your friends situation will solidify, and you will feel more comfortable. The more you get out there, the faster that will happen. Don’t worry about it at all.</p>