<p>Captain of the House,</p>
<p>Firstly, I don't understand your logic here and it does not accord with the thrust of much of this thread. </p>
<p>You wrote: "The problem is that even a 99% chance means that a decent number will not get into schools of their choice. Not a tragedy, but I can tell you that in my particular situation a 90-99% chance strikes fear in the heart of a parent when that is the chance of being alive in so many years--a statistic over which many felt I should be overjoyed when there were (and are) so many with lesser chances. Clearly, to compare that with college acceptance is using a sledgehammer to chase a gnat, however, I just want to point out that a 99% rate when there are 6000-7000 individuals in the pool means that 60-70 of those fully accepting to be in that wonderful 99% are not."</p>
<p>Secondly, I disgree that the process of college admission needs to be filled with the "fear in the heart" and "panic" that you and others describe. As many of us have tried to articulate, there are many excellent options available for a range of top students. With the proper knowledge and appropriately calibrated expectations, no one should be disappointed. Too often, I sense a kind of mass hysteria (with its own self-referential harmonics) on CC and also in talking with my friends and their parents. We are sometimes overly invested in our anxiety, our "feelings" and in our sense of ourselves as "victims" that we don't take appropriate responsibility for ourselves. </p>
<p>Thirdly, your point as to the value of some of the schools I mentioned relative to in-state public alternatives, and your larger point as to the ever-increasing cost of a college education and the decreasing options for financial assistance for the middle-class is an excellent one. Clearly, we have less degrees of freedom here. That said, there still are several ways to skin this wily cat. Let me offer a few:</p>
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<li><p>If you live in a state with a very good public university that has a solid Honors program, go for it. A decently talented and motivated kid can come away with an excellent education, possibly even a PBK key and be competitive, if he or she chooses, for admission to an elite graduate program. This is the "keep your powder dry" strategy.</p></li>
<li><p>Consider applying for an ROTC scholarship. Many, if not all, branches of the services have these. They are open to both guys and gals. As a concrete example, see the Air Force ROTC Scholarship program at Trinity University.</p></li>
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<p>This is just one of many programs of its kind. Yes, it involves sacrifice and commitment, etc. This is the "if there is a will, there is a way"' strategy. </p>
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<li><p>Go out-of-state to a good Honors Programs. Many are not exhorbitantly expensive for OOSs. A quick search finds the University of Montana and The College of New Jersey at about $22K a per year each. Yes, it's real money, but I think there is also real value. In these cases, both are beautiful schools in two very different parts of the country offering excellent programs. This the "piggy-back on the largess of other states" strategy.</p></li>
<li><p>Stagger the college experience and work intermittently thoroughout or "college on the six-year plan" or the "pay as you go" strategy. It has the benefits of one's gaining valuable work experience during school and of generating some coin.</p></li>
<li><p>Begin at a Community College for the first year or two, then transfer to the school you really want to go to. This is the "big trees from little acorns grow" strategy.</p></li>
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<p>Your point btw about small colleges and the need to visit and show face is overdrawn. There are many ways to both get to know a college and to communicate interest (e.g e-mail, POT, letters, etc.) other than visiting in person. There is a lot to be said for learning how to develop and maintain relationships in this more old-fashioned way.</p>
<p>The point again is this we don't lack options, we lack imagination and will. And the imagination and will needs to come, primarily, from us students. You can't easily push a rope.</p>
<p>Less whinging and more rational action is called for.</p>
<p>What am I missing? What is your strategy?</p>