<p>I don't get why the guy would ever say </p>
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<p>Why can't he just say "I want to keep my two eyes. I don't care if you give the other guy four of them."</p>
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Do they usually know that CC or online courses are a better fit for their lifestyle?
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<p>"Better fit"? Do you believe your little brother's lifestyle is suitable for him? Meant to be? Why would you want him to continue down on this path?</p>
<p>Both me and my sibling completely neglected high school (well, I actually went, but only to get my own place for a while). We supported each other in going back to school and picking ourselves up, and you know what, we're both doing great. In a way, we couldn't have done it without the implied sibling rivalry. </p>
<p>I am amazed that you'd want to work against your brother rather than helping him out in any way that you can -- such grace would make you BETTER off, as a person and possibly in life, than the petty option of just letting go for the sake of ego.</p>
<p>You obviously already know what this sounds like, so why seek validation? It sure isn't any support for positive change you're seeking here.</p>
<p>nonnie mouse, I understand that you were venting. Siblings often feel resentment toward one another, but I think you recognize that your brother won't have the same "reward" you will, because you've earned many more options, and you'll reap the benefits of your hard work. Your brother will eventually have what he deserves, as well - but that won't be what you'll have.</p>
<p>It always makes me sad to see people hanging on to sibling resentment. My mother and MIL are in their 70s and don't necessarily have decades to come to terms with their sisters. It's their decision whether or not to reconcile, of course. But I always wonder whether the perceived slights and parental favoritism of decades ago really justify the continued bitterness. nonnie, you'll feel better if you can let go of the comparisons between yourself and your brother. And all of your hard work will be worthwhile - would you do anything differently, if you could?</p>
<p>nonnie mouse, it's not your fault your mom is sick, and it's not your fault
your brother is being self-destructive (maybe he is also reacting to you
mom's being sick). You just finished a tough junior year, and you did well.
You are probably tired, and scared (for your mom), and angry. But it's not
your brother's fault, either. He needs adults to help him. It's not your job -
you're just a kid. Just be a nice sister, if you can. </p>
<p>Often the "golden child" thinks they have to take on the adult responsibilities.
You don't. You are making a big contribution just by doing a good job in
school. Your parents talk about the fun stuff in college because they want
you to lighten up and have fun. So make them happy. Have some fun.
Smile more. Try to stop worrying so much. You brother will probably be OK
in the end, just like the people who posted above.</p>