<p>Well Bschoolwiz, if you are so concerned about their future marriage life, why not consult them and talk with them instead of talking behind there back in CC? I think it would be a much better of your time and theirs as well.</p>
<p>In my opinion, it is not your privilege to hold yourself above others because of what they haven’t done to you. Instead, you should try viewing others based upon what they have done. Just because they don’t want to join your study group doesn’t mean they don’t have friends outside of class. Just because a husband doesn’t enjoy drinking at a bar with large groups doesn’t mean he can’t have a stable relationship with his wife.</p>
<p>In high school I was voted the quietest person in my graduating class. After I gave my speech at graduation a few people told me it was the most they had ever heard me talk. But my friends were rather shocked that other people had that impression of me. The small group of people who take were in my classes every day (not many took AP calc/physics etc. at my school) had no such impression. In college I haven’t gone out to parties or tried to warm up to random people in my classes either. But when we started group design projects this year, I was as good and sociable as any other person in my class. Most people in my AIChE chapter/on my running club know I’m quiet, but when something has to be said or work has to be done, I’m right here with the best of them.</p>
<p>Social skills != professional skills. Don’t assume you can’t work with me because I don’t want to study with you. Maybe I don’t like you as a person. Maybe I just want to make it through the day. Basically: why judge someone for what they haven’t done?</p>
<p>Once in a while I will hear engineer wives complaining (in good humor) about “different” engineering traits. As an engineer wife and engineer myself, I’ve had to smile… there are just different social traits in the world - none really right or wrong. I will add that in the workplace it is helpful when employees can interface well with techies and other as needed. It’s just not necessary to be a social butterfly.</p>