<p>Hi - I’m not touching ^ with a ten-foot pole.</p>
<p>The comment about race and lower rates of drinking actually makes sense to me. Some kids have more to lose than others. I would attribute class to the mix. D has a full scholarship to a private college – one of the conditions is no drugs or alcohol. Her dad and I were tickled pink. We get to play “good cop” for a change.</p>
<p>Talking it over with S…he isn’t as concerned as I (surprised?). He does not want to take off his list the two schools with bad rep’s for drinking and drugs, even though he agrees that this might problematic if he goes there. But he is coming at it with the idea that schools which 1) have tons of clubs and activities and 2) offer some different options for housing will make life manageable (I think Pootie and others mentioned this). Going into it with his eyes open, I guess. Also avoiding schools where frats dominate the scene. The school with the most has about 25% frat/sorority members.</p>
<p>As for the rural setting, yes, it makes sense. Having even a small town to walk to would be nice. It is one of the very first criteria S is using in making the list, and the reason he discounted a particular school. But there is another, more competitive school in a rural setting…and that one is also staying on the list for the time being.</p>
<p>We will probably revisit this on another round, as time gets closer. I wish I could avoid it completely but that’s me, Mom strikes again. It really is on every campus. He feels confident that he can deal with it, taking it step by step. I am obviously the one who needs to take more of that attitude.</p>
<p>Thanks for all your comments, I really do appreciate it!</p>