Learning to Cope - A Support Thread

I now feel disheartened after browsing through the Harvard REA Results thread. I’ve decided to accept the fact that I will most likely be rejected, deferred if I’m lucky. I’m not gonna lie, I’m bummed. I tried to tell myself I wouldn’t get excited about Yale, knowing that attachment would make a rejection that more painful. But alas, I’m human and thus emotional. I’m creating this thread so we rejected (rejectees?) have a place to vent and look for support. To kick things off, I want to first state how anyone applying to Yale early has their s*** together. A rejection doesn’t define us and there are many paths to success and happiness. Just try to keep the bigger picture in mind. So, feel free to vent or spill your thoughts and feelings. Negativity will not be tolerated.

I haven’t been rejected yet, but I am feeling exactly what you described in the beginning. I still feel really attached to Harvard, but I am almost certain I will recieve a rejection letter on ivy day.

@RoundGenius, I’m a bit confused. This from your post history: http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-search-selection/1948184-harvard-or-princeton.html#latest

So, let me get this straight: YOU WERE ACCEPTED to Yale in the SCEA round, but are now realizing you stand a good chance in the RD round of being rejected by Harvard and Princeton. Is that correct?

If so, I have three things to say:

First off, GROW UP kid! Yale rejected 28% of SCEA applicants and deferred another 58% – now those kids have something to cry about, but absolutely not you! My read on the post j#2 is that @stuyingtosave was deferred – imagine how s/he feels ? Where’s you’re empathy man? Maybe you do belong at Harvard after all!. http://www.thecrimson.com/article/2011/9/1/pledge-freshmen-students-harvard/

Secondly, between my son and daughter, they were accepted to HYP and we saw each school’s financial package. For our family, Yale was the cheapest (then Princeton and then Harvard). Yes, Harvard was the most expensive for our family, but by just a few thousand dollars per semester. Not really enough to make a high difference in financial aid packages.

Lastly, you should be excited and thrilled to have been accepted to Yale. And if you are accepted to that other school to the north, you really should THINK CAREFULLY about what you want from your next four years, as prestige ain’t all it’s cracked up to be. I posted this thread several years ago and you may want to read post #4 and rethink your priorities: http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/yale-university/1483765-choosing-yale-over-stanford-and-harvard-p1.html

@gibby - The opening date on this thread was 12/14/16, the day before early decisions came out. Viewed from that perspective everything makes sense.

^^ Thanks @sherpa, I hadn’t noticed the date. It does make sense now.

@gibby
Sorry for the confusion. As @sherpa said, I posted this the day before SCEA results came out. However, this thread is still open to anyone who needs it.