A friend child had a good experience at UVM. You might want to explore that one as well.
I second UVM. Larger - bigger pool. Super liberal. I don’t think you’d have a problem and would find your peeps.
Definitely New College of Florida, where I went. I’m also gay so I really loved and appreciated how totally accepting the atmosphere was and how many other students were also gay. It’s a lot of them. They actually don’t show up on a lot of national radars because they have never been able to have a very popular “LGBT center”, because with how LGBT friendly the campus is (and how many LGBT people there are, like 40% or something) it becomes redundant and unnecessary to have a specific center.
@overyet Oberlin! PM me if you have questions.