Kids of college grad parents receive a lot of unconscious support at home that make it easier for them to ‘find their own path.’
We have a family where one parent attended a top university UG and has a professional degree while the other parent has a GED. You can imagine which parent has been the main advisor with the children in terms of their college thoughts, decisions, progress. The parent with the GED, while fully supportive of the process, simply does not have the experience nor the knowledge of how colleges work on the inside. If the kids had not had the parent who had been through it already to bounce ideas off, get some direction when they were confused or stuck, it would be/have been a significantly bumpier experience for them.
@dad3sons, I understand what and why you are asking. You can only offer support but no concrete advice about course choices, sequences, how to approach and talk to professors. It is and will be frustrating for you but remember you are providing much more for them than you had available for yourself. Also you will have the bittersweet experience of having your kids achieve things that you yourself could have done, but for whatever the reasons, did not get to do. Given that, your kids will have to figure things out for themselves. You can’t be their coach, but you can be their biggest cheerleader.