There’s another current thread that explores this topic in considerable detail.
One point made on that thread is that even those who place a high value on such independence may want to offer some flexibility in how it is achieved. For example, @MiamiDAP, your daughter is a medical student, right? There will probably be a gap of several weeks between her graduation and the beginning of her residency. Will you allow her to live with you during that gap period (or at least until the lease starts on her new apartment)? Will you and your spouse help her with her moving expenses and the initial cost of her new apartment (first and last month’s rent, furniture, etc.)? Will you co-sign her lease if her landlord won’t accept her as a tenant without a guarantor? Will you help her financially if she ends up with a residency in a suburban area, where she will need a car long before she will have earned the money to pay for one (or perhaps even to qualify for a car loan)?
In my opinion, families rarely think about these issues until they arise. And then they may be caught by surprise. We parents often think that our kids will be on their own the moment they graduate. But even for those with solid plans for the future, this is not always the case.