<p>I met a guy at the beginning of the yr, he was in my first and last hour. Gradually we got to know each other and become kinda close.</p>
<p>Semesters changed and now he's only in my first. It's also a tough class so we don't get to talk. I eventually asked for his s/n, so we talk online.</p>
<p>I got to know him enough [not as much as I'd like] to tell that he's genuine, caring, smart, etc. However, he did drugs/ drinks [the drinking doesnt bother me - as long as it's responsibly] </p>
<p>I know I like him - a lot, but I'd like to know him more. I also want to tell him [I'm a junior, he's a senior] I'm down with the college/HS relationship thing as long as it's worth it. </p>
<p>come to first period in your birthday suit next wednesday. bring four roses, a burned copy of michael bolton's greatest hits, and a can of extra large yams.</p>
<p>^^That's not true. She just said that she thinks he's genuine, caring, etc.</p>
<p>Personally, I would not go for this relationship. You're a junior, he's a senior. You're going to be looking at colleges soon, and he's going to be getting ready to start a new life. The drugs/drinking suggests that you two have different lifestyles, and therefore have different friends. </p>
<p>From my own experience, this is what I'm going to guess will happen...for the first three months, he'll be head over heels crazy about you. Then he'll ask you to come to a party with him. Let's say that you turn him down, because you're not that type of girl. He's going to feel hurt, and will go to the party anyway. While he's there, his friends will tease him about you, how you're a junior who is too prissy to drink. Then some time goes by, and you two will grow distanced as he begins to think about college. My guess is he will not want to have a long distance relationship.</p>
<p>Guys are not reliable, no matter what they seem. To answer your question, I don't think it's worth it. I think it'd be fine for a non-serious relationship. I also think that you should wait for him to make the move, if you really do want to go with it. Good luck!</p>
<p>I'm in the opposite position... I'm the senior and he's the junior.
I personally think that a long-term relationship is impossible, and that this realization is going to keep either of us from making a move. So... yeah. It's frustrating, but that's my take on my very similar situation.</p>
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I know I like him - a lot, but I'd like to know him more. I also want to tell him [I'm a junior, he's a senior] I'm down with the college/HS relationship thing as long as it's worth it.
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did you not see Newport Harbor with Crissy and Clay!? high school/college relationships are too complicated and too time consuming. besides why would you be in a relationship with someone in whole different stage of life?</p>
<p>First step: ask him out on a date, or even just to hang out one weekend. Don't phrase your proposition as "I really like you." Phrase it as "I enjoy your company and would like to spend some time with you in order to get to know you better" (not that stale, obviously, but that should be the message).</p>
<p>I understand your concerns about beginning a relationship with someone who'll be going away soon. However, I think you're living too far in the future. If you like this boy, and you suspect he likes you, just start spending time with him and see where it takes you. If you ask me, the fact that he'll be graduating would be incentive to get on the ball and make a move while there's still some time.</p>
<p>As for the high school-college relationship thing, cross that bridge when you come to it. Not to be pessimistic, but you don't even know if your relationship will last that long, so you might not even need to worry about it. The best-case scenario for you, as I see it, is that you have something fun to do for your second half of junior year and over the summer, and then the two of you part amicably. However, you'll never know unless you try.</p>
<p>i love how lulumobile put "physical" in quotes like it was too dirty to say in normal type LOL.</p>
<p>Oh and what i have found works best is the direct approach. "darling you are absolutely gorgeous. you want to hang out sometime?"</p>
<p>then if she hesitates go with the "ok i put myself out on a limb....im feeling really vulnerable here.....really vulnerable..." until she says ok.</p>
<p>Relationships are tricky...especially when you are a senior. I think you should suggest that you two hang out or something. If you do and then he starts to show interest then go for it. Dont' waste your time chasing him though...believe me its not worth it. If you two do start to talk a lot more thouhg...why not tell him, he may just feel the same way. I don't think guys are as confident as they appear.</p>
<p>What does everybody think about girls asking guys out, anyway? </p>
<p>I personally feel that a girl can nudge the guy in the right direction, but it should be the guy who feels like he had "won" a date with the girl in the end. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I feel like if a guy doesn't ask me out in the first place, then he's not worth it to be in a relationship with in the first place.</p>
<p>Some guys can be really dense and not realize that you're dropping hints. After accidentally landing a girlfriend while college I looked back at some high school girls I was friends with and realized that a couple of them had been dropping hints and me for a while (and also confirmed one or two of those by asking friends).</p>
<p>According to mj93 with the "proteans" info, you don't have to know how...because you do it subconsciously. But since you talk online with him, I'm not sure the hair flipping/fluttering eye lashes would do you any good.</p>
<p>If you really do like him and want to ask him out, then one day when you're talking to him I would just say "So, when are you going to ask me out?". The blunter the better. :) Very unlikely he'll reject you with that.</p>
<p>PS. I got a guy to ask me to homecoming after we were chatting through Myspace. My hint was something along the lines of "What a shame, I have a pretty dress but no date to wear it for. I'd accept any guy who'd ask me, if only he'd ask me..." I didn't think the guy was going to the dance, but then he asked me where I lived and appeared on my doorstep with flowers. :D</p>
<p>hahah perhaps. I guess I want to know him more. I'm a person who wouldnt go for a 'regular relationship' I think if its not long term, its not worth it because its mostly just lust [the not serious ones]. </p>
<p>yeah, I think ill pluck up the courage to ask for his number but thts all I can think of for now</p>