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<p>Honestly, yeah, if we’re just telling you straight up then this is correct. Geed parties aren’t generally that fun. Try to get into a mixer later in the night or something if you know a guy in a frat.</p>
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<p>No, it’s not – at least not universally. That is also just a dumb mindset to have because it’s too vague. Shall I go on a murder spree, which I have never done before? How about seven nights of unprotected sex? Are these worthwhile new experiences?</p>
<p>^ Or, you know, you could NOT take everything to the extreme. </p>
<p>New experiences could be “living on your own” since most freshmen haven’t lived on their own, or dating, or drinking, or hanging out with new people.</p>
<p>Some people would consider drinking until blackout extreme, yet some students still do that.</p>
<p>I personally do feel that college is about trying new things, with (perhaps many)
caveats. It’s not that the thought is totally worthless, it’s that it, as mentioned too vague.</p>
<p>For example, I would dispute this:</p>
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<p>Notice that the people who enjoy partying are the ones who flourish in that environment. If a nerdy, awkward guy (not unlike yours truly) is going to be chastised for being at a social event or otherwise not enjoy himself, wouldn’t it make sense that he chooses to pursue other interests? Wouldn’t it also make sense that he feels annoyed by the constant pressure to partake in something that isn’t fun to him?</p>
<p>How very interesting. I’ve always assumed that anyone who isn’t into partying is considered an anomaly and antisocial. </p>
<p>As for me, a great Saturday night is cracking the problem sets out of a Spivak textbook with a couple other classmates. A lot of people would not find that entertaining, likewise, many people, such as yourself for example, do not find partying to be entertaining. Parties definitely aren’t for everyone, like myself for example. I don’t think I could keep my nerves in check for too long if I were to ever attend one.</p>
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<p>Yes, some students do that. That is extreme. </p>
<p>Drinking in and of itself is not extreme.</p>
<p>I could not say what other people find extreme, but my original question remains – who has the authority to determine what new experiences are worth having?</p>
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<p>Exactly - and some people may find that in their own lives it is determined that partying and that part of college is a new experience worth having - It just depends on anyone’s individual opinion, which is what this thread could only be - opinion on what someone deems as worthwhile or fun. Doesn’t have to be the extremes on either end, but it can be.</p>
<p>Who has the authority to determine what new experiences are worth having?</p>
<p>No one does. Or, rather, we all do. We each decide which new experiences to partake in. I’ve had some experiences I’m sure a great percentage of the population will never have or want to have, they’d be considered “too extreme” by conventional standards. And there’s nothing wrong with that.</p>
<p>Conversely, I’ve never done some things that many other people have and I don’t really want to, for whatever reason, even if it’s something most people would consider worth doing. And that’s fine. We all do this to some extent. And no experience is something that no one should ever have under any circumstances, unless it harms someone else (or themselves in an EXTREME manner).</p>
<p>Okay. I disagree with the last sentence, but it’s not worth pressing.</p>
<p>Anyway, the point seems to be that partying is not for everyone, and that’s fine. If someone judges the actions of people who party, whatever. Just don’t do things that are not fun for you.</p>
<p>Is partying the definition of a good time? No.
Is partying a good time for some people? Yes.</p>
<p>this thread is now OVAH</p>
<p>I’ve never gone to a “party” like the one you described and would consider that extremely uncomfortable. However, I’ve never felt like an outcast, and I’ve been to parties that more closely fit my definition of fun. Parties of maybe 10 people where we play Munchkin, Apples to Apples, Mario Party, or Brawl, for example. Alcohol is often involved but it’s not the focus and no one involved is a stranger… at most distant a close friend of a close friend.
So not liking what you described as a party does not mean you are “anti-social”. I would consider parties like that more anti-social… you’re not making a meaningful social connection with anyone, really.</p>
<p>Perhaps, then, it would be in the best interest of everyone here for someone to define what the various types of parties are along with their pluses and minuses…</p>
<p>lol u mad?</p>
<p>“Parties of maybe 10 people where we play Munchkin, Apples to Apples, Mario Party, or Brawl”</p>
<p>*** mate? You are in college right lol? Lol play drinking games or just talk to the hotties.</p>
<p>Types of Parties/ Social situations
- Frat Parties- Loud as hell, crowded as hell. All the freshmen flock here during the first few months or so because they don’t know where else to go. Most people are awkward because they comfort zone is very small. They sort of just stand in the corners or by the drink counter. If you are a Frat guy or confident ■■■■, its your time to shine here. Shove (no other way) your way through the crowd to get to cute girl and work your game. Literally just ignore everyone except the person you are trying to talk to. TOUCH THE OTHER PERSON ASAP and LEAN CLOSE TO HER EAR TO TALK. Otherwise you can’t hear.</p>
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<li><p>Dorm parties- Small, 10-20 people. Different dynamics. Host knows everyone but people are mostly in packs. Some mingling is possible. Definitely easier to talk to people. Everyone shares some commonalities because they are at the same party… so just go up and talk to them champ…</p></li>
<li><p>Bars- Expensive and sometimes loud. If your looking to get hammered, do it at a frat and save $25. People go to bar in groups (lol only players and girls who are looking for a one nighter go to bars solo). If music is not loud, good place to meet people if you are with really social friends. If music is pounding, you better have good game because talking is going straight to hell.</p></li>
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<p>Dorm parties are probably the best if you are average person (you are a bystander observing rather than being observed). Frat parties are where its at if you are ballsy.</p>
<p>I can’t drink too much at once because of my medication. I’m also a girl and I have a long-term boyfriend…I don’t give a **** about your “hotties”, and I’ve been in college for four years now and all of the parties I’ve been to have been like this. I’d prefer to do something that’s actually fun as opposed to what you suggest. All of my friends enjoy playing the games I mentioned while slightly drunk and it’s quite a lot of fun.</p>
<p>^just ignore the Charlie Sheen-wannabe who acts like Columbia is on par with any southern uni’s party scene</p>
<p>what i don’t get is how people can tolerate the sh…oddy music being played at most (large) parties</p>