I went to UW-Madison and my boyfriend went to UW-Eau Claire. We have plans to visit each other in 3 weeks and then the week after that, 2 weeks, then one week. We are both very committed to each other and text almost all day and FaceTime/call every two days. He trusts me and I trust him, though we both get nervous when the other parties but nothing more than back of our minds thinking. The problem isn’t worried that it won’t work or that he’ll cheat, it’s just that I miss him so much that I feel like it’s hindering my wanting to go out, make friends, or do anything really. I’m in a 100% city-campus and he’s in a mostly “green” campus like the town we’ve both lived in for middle & high school, and he’s rooming with his 3 best friends from high school and I’m rooming with a girl, who I love and is awesome don’t get me wrong, that I met online in February. So he has an easier time going out and having a good time and I’m just sad because I miss him and am homesick. Has anyone else experienced this? I’m told by people that have graduated from my high school and started at this college that it takes a couple weeks to adjust but I just feel so homesick for him. Any tips to help would be greatly appreciated.
What you are going through is perfectly normal for your situation. It sounds like you have made somewhat bigger changes than he has in your college transition, and you are on a steep and scary part of your learning curve. You are also grieving seeing him all the time, whenever you can. I don’t have any magic words of wisdom to share except that you will adjust over time. If your relationship is meant to be then it will continue to grow with those adjustments. You also probably already know that a lot of high school relationships don’t survive this transition which is probably increasing your anxiety. But you can’t dwell on that fact. Again, if your relationship is going to last it is going to have to weather these changes.
One thing you can do for yourself is not to allow your feelings to interfere with doing well academically. Do the best that you can because how you do affects your own options and choices later in life. Once you take college classes you have that transcript forever. If your relationship lasts, your success will add to your relationship.
Check out this thread:
http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1889915-is-it-worth-keeping-a-ldr-other-things-p1.html
I personally think college is the chance to grow and you should not limit what you do and stay in your room pining for him.