Do I transfer to my boyfriends college?

Transfer Students
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Hi,

I have gone to community college for two year now completing the classes needed, and need to transfer to a university but I have found myself stuck.

My boyfriend was planning to go there when I first met him and is a freshman now. I am a sophomore

I planned to transfer with a friend to a university 5ish house away from home, but due to a new boyfriend she has decided to stay another semester to finish her classes (as he is doing as well) that’s ok.

Now I’m stuck. And found myself with two option.

  1. Stay at home and do a online university living at home. Doing long distance for another 2 year with my boyfriend.

I am wanting a change and to live on my own, thus the idea of transferring far away

  1. Transfer to my boyfriends school who I’ve know for 7 months. To a school that is amazing but I never knew of prior to meeting him. We are amazingly doing long distance now and I have gone up to visit him.

My heart says go with boyfriend, who cares, get time to live on your own.

My head says what if it doesn’t work out and what will people think (his parents) following a boy???

I don’t want to find myself in crazy expensive rent living on my own or moving In With people and it not working or (it could be the best idk). I am paying for my own school.

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I’ll give you the advice that I gave my son regarding his gf and going to the same college. I told him that he needed to go where it was going to work the best for him and not just where she was going. They both ended up going to the same place because that place was the best for each of them individually. In the end they broke up several months into college. No one knows what will happen but in the end you should focus on what’s best for your education. If the bf works out it will work out either remote or not. Just my two cents.

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How big is the college your boyfriend goes to? If it’s a decent size and it has majors you’re interested in then do it. If it’s a super small school where if you break up, you’ll see him everywhere or if it has nothing you want to study, don’t do it.
Check the costs of going there and if by chance it’s for profit, definitely don’t go. But if you’re hesitating because of what others may think, don’t let that bother you and do what’s right for you.

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It is a large school. And it makes all the since to go. Just the what if’s and being seen as “following my boyfriend” to my parents, his, and others that turn me away.

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Do not worry about that part. You could go to a large school that has your field of interest for lots of reasons. You might break up. You might not. But at some point you’d want to see what it’s like not being long distance. And you’d be getting your education no matter what.

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I think that you should assume that you are going to break up with the boyfriend within a year (even if you won’t). Then figure out which school is the right one for you. If your boyfriend happens to be at the school that is best for you, there is no harm in following him whether you stay together or not.

If you are paying for your own school, then finances have to be a HUGE issue. Will the online university be significantly less expensive?

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^^^^ Excellent response and spot on.

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It will not be particulate cheaper, just no rent or housing.

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Agree 100% with this answer.

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Have you applied yet? Are you applying to other schools too? You may want to consider applying to a few schools that are reasonable for you price wise and with your major and see what you are offered. If you have a couple of places to choose from, you might see where the best place is for you to study.