I’m an incoming college freshman. I committed to a school I don’t like because my top choices were too expensive. I’m very unhappy about going this fall but am completely open to giving it a chance. However I have researched the school that my boyfriend is going to. It is cheaper and has a better business program which is my main priority. I am just torn if it is a bad idea to “follow him”. Regardless of if we we continue dating i would still want to go to his school as it has better academics and is very similar to what i’m looking for in a school compared to where i’m going to be attending. I would probably transfer after a semester or year. Good or bad idea?
Mom advice here: You owe it to yourself to see what the school YOU chose has to offer. I would give your school all you have for a year; that means making connections with your professors, joining clubs that interest you, pledging a sorority (if that’s your kind of thing), playing a club sport, going on outings and road trips with fellow classmates and friends, really be open to the experience. Emotions can play funny tricks on your mind and make you second guess your choices. If after a year, you can honestly say you’ve given it your all and you’re still unhappy, then reassess and explore other options.
OP, in my view, you have not shared enough information in order for one to make a reasonable recommendation.
Which schools ?
Any career goals ?
And would you still consider this school if you and your boyfriend broke up?
So, is it fair to say that this is a boyfriend of less than 6 months?
If you have been going out with him for longer than 6 months, why did you choose NOT to apply to that school originally?
I agree with @collegemom3717 . If this school is so great, why didn’t you apply to it?
Was it an issue of distance from home?
Seems like the answer is here.
That said, I hope you try to make the best of the college you will be attending. Starting with the idea that “this isn’t my real college, I’m leaving next year” means you may be less likely to spend time getting to know profs, make a good circle of friends, participate in clubs, etc. And while you may have every intention of transferring, life can throw wrinkles our way. It may end up being your college all 4 years.
How is it that this place wasn’t on your application list this year?
Would it make sense to just take a gap year and apply there (and elsewhere) and skip the headache of transferring?
Since money is an issue make sure to look at costs. Which schools are you considering? Some offer better aid than others. Make sure that your boyfriend’s school gives aid to transfer students. What’s your budget and the estimated cost at both schools?
Please check how your boyfriend’s school gives out scholarship money to transfer students.
Most schools save the best scholarships for freshman students, with little to no money available to transfer students.
Also check to see if his school is still accepting applications for this fall.
A Gap year would allow you to preserve your freshman status and you could apply in the next admissions cycle.
Be sure you do not take any classes during Gap year that would end your Freshman status. Check each college’s website to understand their rules and regulations regarding taking college classes during a Gap year.