Low GPA, Top Schools?

I have a low GPA due to personal reasonI have a low GPA due to personal reasons and I realized how much I screwed up. Can someone either give me hope or make me face reality?

Grade: 11th/Junior
UW GPA: 3.6
W GPA: 3.9
(I have a D on my transcript. Just thought I’d put that out there.)

Race: White (Syrian)

SATs: Didn’t like my score. Planning on retaking it in March with the goal of getting a 1400-1590.

AP tests:
AP Biology, AP Spanish 5, APChem, AP Studio Art
Haven’t taken the tests yet but aiming high (4-5s)

Ranking: School doesn’t have that

Extracurricular:
-Taking care of my younger brothers (mom goes to school. explanation below)
-Tutoring at library
-Work/interning at a lab (10th-12th)
-president of National Art Honor Society
-swim team 9th-now
Will be in varsity this year
-piano (doing it as therapy)
-painting/drawing

Goals:
I’m hoping to become a yearbook editor next year. I’m pretty sure I’ll get accepted since I’m close with the other editors and the teacher.

I also plan on working with foster care kids. The court system is absolute sh** when it comes to children and I’ll get into that later.

One of the librarians really like me and recommended me to apply and try to become a Library Board representative. I have to ask her about the name. It’s sounds really fun and at this point in my life, I need to have fun and stop being so depressed about life.

-When I have free time during winter/spring/summer break, I’ll be working on some art pieces to apply to competitions. Hopefully will win one of them.

Backstory:
Ok now for the explanation. I’ve been dealing with A LOT. I’m going to do a quick run down:

-Dad was abusive towards mom.
-He beat up mom until she called cops. He got arrested but came back for forgiveness.Mom forgave him.
-Suddenly he held a restraining order against her and falsely accused her of being mentally unstable and abusive to him( pretty funny. He’s 6 ft and she’s 5’1 to give you reference. Good job dad)
-Was very close to mom so this was absolutely devastating. Wasn’t allowed to communicate or see her.
-dad tried to manipulate me but failed so he decided to also falsely accuse me of being abusive towards my brothers. He claimed that I was mentally ill and dangerous so I needed to be put in a boarding school or to an institution.
-I wasn’t abused physically but emotionally. I don’t want to say what happened because it stresses me out. There were times I wanted him to hit me so I had a reason to leave. He did drag me on the floor and push me on the floor at some points but I was scared of what would happen if I told someone.

  • Brother ran away first and I did the same too. Now we live with my mom and refuse to see our dad.
    -dad fighting in court accusing me of things and forcing us to see psychologists that literally do whatever you want if you pay them money lol
    -financial problems which is fun.
    Dad is a surgeon so court has a bias towards him because “Wow! You’re a doctor?!”. Even tho it’s proven that he’s an abusive misogynistic man. Now he’s claiming he has neck injuries but I already know he’s lying so he can leave his job. He already mentioned leaving his job. He really hates paying child support that much lol.
    -now I’m pretty much scarred and depressed TBH

I know that I shouldn’t be stressing about school because community college/ transferring is a thing and I’m already going through a lot but I still want to try to get in my first year of undergrad. I know people will judge me for going to cc like family (bc the culture sucks. Was already accused of being a slut since I don’t see my dad. Even though I literally have no interest in guys and am very much a virgin. Probably due to all the stress) and I know that once I hit 18 and everything stops, I’ll regret not going to a nice university.

This ended up being a rant too so I apologize and thank you for reading till the end.

I don’t know if it matters but I am first generation American. My parent have gone to college. Dad actually went to Stanford for grad school but idk if I want to mention that. My family will probably become low income when I begin senior year due to certain reasons. I also speak Arabic.

Consider applying to your state university honors college.

You need to get into a new environment. Take advantage of any counseling services. Exercise, such as running & swimming, can help.

So many things going on - I am very sorry for your situation. I don’t think getting into a “top college” should really be your big worry right now. Do your best in school, keep yourself safe and work on improving your mental health so the depression is under control and you feel less angry. Freshman year of college isn’t easy and heading off to college when you are in a bad space mentally might be the worst thing you can do. Think seriously and talk to your mom about how you will afford college without your Dad paying for it. Get grounded and better in tune with where you are before you start worrying about where you’re going.

I’ve actually talked to my mom about our situation and she wants me to go to a good university as well which kind of adds on to the stress. When I talked to her about the cost of college because I was concerned about it, she said to not think about it and just try to get accepted.

I live in California and the top colleges that I was talking about are actually the UCs I want to go to. I’ll definitely try getting into healthier habits next semester.