<p>All I gotta say is that your kids are SAT wimps. MY child got a 6142 on the SAT. (Yeah, that’s the sum of multiple takes. Isn’t that what “super-scored” means?)</p>
<p>Momofwildchild: as a fellow episcopalian, I share your joy :)</p>
<p>NewNope: lol, damn skippy!!</p>
<p>It may be my interpretation, but it seems that you’re looking down on that person. Just because the kid’s score didn’t break 2000 does not mean that the mother can’t be proud. Just because a score isn’t above a 2000 does not mean it isn’t a good score. I didn’t break 2000 my first try but my mom was proud of me. I highly doubt the kid would feel shameful (happy that they made their parent proud if anything), and if the kid feels embarrassed, it’d be coming from the fact that their mom is so proud. Also, it is quite common to see people post their scores. Whenever a new batch of scores come out you can see it plastered on Facebook. You just have to let people be happy with what they have.</p>
<p>why facebook when you can e-mail to people you want to share with…I guess it’s a way to seem a bit less tacky.</p>
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<p>I knew what you meant the first time. I continue to believe that looking down on a classmate, who should be like a teammate, because of a score is immature at best, whether that score is above or below your school’s median or whatever other standards you set. If that’s the kind of culture your school created, then I’m sorry because they did you a huge disservice, regardless of any academic strengths.</p>
<p>I think the point is that SAT scores are very personal info and a kid could be embarrassed by a parent sharing that, no matter what the scores are. It’s like posting someone’s income on Facebook.</p>
<p>I actually wouldn’t post acceptances. I think it is nobody’s business where my kid was accepted (heck, I am not even telling my parents at this point because they can’t keep their opinions out of the process!). It just makes people feel bad who didn’t get accepted, especially if you turn down attending someplace their friends might have wanted to attend but didn’t get the chance. We CC’ers know our kid didn’t really “take someone’s acceptance” due to the way yield/etc. works, but not everyone thinks about it that way. Also, I would not want to be second guessed if my kid decides to take merit aid at a lower ranked school and turn down acceptances elsewhere. Like I said, the final decision of where she is going will be on FB eventually, but this is one part of life that I think does not need to be a public, blow-by-blow revelation to everyone I know.</p>
<p>That is what CC is for. 
Just not the “public” part, since we work under screen names here.</p>
<p>^ I agree but I did post my acceptance to my top choice just because I knew many of my friends were waiting to hear for my decision. I felt the same about my friends and their hopes too.</p>
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<p>email is a dying form of communication (it still has some life, obviously, but it is on the way out)</p>
<p>“Moreover, if he/she was attending my HS or those like it, posting scores below 2000 would also be embarrassing as that would be the equivalent of the parent being proud of his/her being below average”</p>
<p>And wouldn’t it be awful to be not-well-thought-of by cobrat’s high school community! I know I don’t make a single move without thinking WWPICHSD - what would people in cobrat’s high school do. I mean, I hear about them so much, they must be super important to impress!</p>
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<p>Teammates when class grades, special academic programs, ECs, and college admissions…especially to elite colleges are often perceived as zero-sum games not only by students, but also many parents at even many mainstream high schools? Sounds a bit pollyannish considering all of that…even here on CC. In fact, isn’t this one common sub-theme on CC? </p>
<p>Only high schools I know of which comes close to your ideal HS student body was a boarding school an older college classmate attended and few private schools which were Montessori-based or employed similar heavy emphasis on nurturing collaboration. More amusingly, many respectable LACs/universities also seem to come very close to what you seem to expect from high school students in that respect. Ironic considering how exceedingly competitive and expensive it is to gain admission to/attend such schools without being on a sizable scholarship of some kind.</p>
<p>If athlete’s performances are printed in box scores on the front page of the sports section of the newspaper, what’s wrong with students printing their academic performance on Facebook?</p>
<p>I may be the only one, but I couldn’t help but read the OP as a less exaggerated version of “lolwut. That kid’s SAT score sucks–I can’t believe the mom thought it was high! What a pair of idiots.”</p>
<p>I disagree that email is dying form of communication, at least professionally. Professional listservs are still a big thing in my field, and of course, document transmitting is a big use as well. Email is not really used as a form of personal communication that much (at least among my early-to-mid-20 peers," although I do use it to communicate with one of my friends a lot, mainly because we forward each other a lot of emails. Even on FB, I communicate more via the FB chat feature than I do FB itself–my FB wall is mostly things I find entertaining (newstories, youtube videos, etc). shot-outs/congrats/thank yous to friends, and big/cool life event postings (e.g., having a manuscript accepted, deciding on a grad school, etc).</p>
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I continue to believe that looking down on a classmate, who should be like a teammate, because of a score is immature at best, whether that score is above or below your school’s median or whatever other standards you set.
Teammates when class grades, special academic programs, ECs, and college admissions…especially to elite colleges are often perceived as zero-sum games not only by students, but also many parents at even many mainstream high schools? Sounds a bit pollyannish considering all of that…even here on CC. In fact, isn’t this one common sub-theme on CC? "</p>
<p>So what? The fact that “many people” do it – including the all important members of your high school community whose opinions we are somehow supposed to care about – doesn’t make it any less immature.</p>
<p>I agree with the OP. Posting on facebook is not appropriate. I have a friend who posted her DD 30 ACT score after her first time taking it. She then went on and explained how she expected her to get a 36. What was interesting to me was that she posted again in April how she was taking test, but never posted those results. </p>
<p>I feel bad for her daughter. Incredible pressure to do well. I thought she took again yesterday as well, but haven’t seen the FB post yet. She did post earlier that her DD thinks it is normal to get 30+ on ACT implying she received similar score in April. I dread next April when college decisions are made. I might have to remove her as a friend to not have to read her accomplishments daily…</p>
<p>When my daughter does well, I just email a few friends who I feel comfortable bragging. When she doesn’t, no one knows except my CC family. Yesterday she took ACT and she said she doesn’t remember anything from test. She never studies and especially not this time. I simply removed the test being sent to her high school and then changed the schools we are sending the score. I always send to potential schools that aren’t on our major list just in case they are added later. For her top schools, we will just send top score.</p>
<p>I don’t think it is appropriate mainly because of the pressure it puts on the kids. I can see “happy about SAT scores” or something like that. That would be similar to posting “Johnny won his race”. The kids in our school talk and they pretty much know each other’s scores anyway. I was waiting for one mom I know to post scores–she posts everything else so I figured she would post that too. Her Dd didn’t do as well as they thought she would on the ACT so that is why she didn’t post (I’m guessing). She got a 28, which isn’t a bad score at all, but they figured she would be close to a 36. She a is a hard worker when it comes to studying and is #1 in the class, but she isn’t a “natural” student which is why she didn’t score as well as they though. The mom was a little miffed that DS’s scored 4 points higher than her DD…:D.</p>
<p>I don’t see what the big deal really is. I think many of us parents spend way too much time concerned about what another parent is doing. If nothing else, the snarky comments from other parents says a great deal more than a proud parent maybe overstepping a boundary. Also, it seems the parents put much more pressure on kids than the kids do. Imagine what Suzie thinks when she overhears mom talking about how so and so posted such horrible scores.</p>
<p>OP here - I was not looking down at the kids score, but at the mom publicizing what I consider personal information. I realize that were becoming more open with what used to be considered private details of our lives (such as Oprah and Dr. Phil tell-all interviews). Our kids consider more of their lives to be open books, which I find disturbing sometimes. Im like many parents, trying to teach our younger teens not to blab on FB or elsewhere about their dull teacher, their new designer purse, or that they aced todays test. So when I saw a parent posting SAT scores, I was taken aback. I prefer a little more discretion, but I may be swimming against the tide.</p>
<p>BTW, this particular status was visible to friends of friends at least, possibly to the public. And the mom is quite active in school organizations. It just made me cringe, but Ive not spoken to anyone about this. Posting here was my outlet to express my opinions.</p>
<p>I personally would NOT post ALL of the acceptances my child receives. I would wait and post where the kiddo decides to attend college.</p>
<p>Re: things my kids do without me…THEY can post those. I do sometimes put something about how proud I am…but seldom specific info.</p>
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<p>you really think so?..I do not see that happening. You don’t see a need for one on one communication?..texts certainly doesn’t fill the void IMO</p>