<p>Anyone else just not want to get married?</p>
<p>That is, why would you want to tie yourself down with a another person? I know the goal is to find someone who doesn't tie you down, but it's pretty much impossible, no? Since you care for that person you and you know that the person cares for you, you can't really take as many risks in your life. </p>
<p>Same thing with having kids btw.</p>
<p>one day you will find a girl that will make you forget everything you just said.</p>
<p>I actually want a polyamorous marriage.</p>
<p>I think I’ll end up getting married. For a while, I didn’t, but for a slightly different reason… I wanted to be a priest.</p>
<p>I’m a girl, and I’m actually scared at the idea of being married and being tied down FOREVER. You have to do and share everything with your other half. I’m very independent and love freedom. But maybe I’ll change my views on marriage when I get older and have found love.</p>
<p>^^Sometimes I feel like I want to be a nun. But my Christological beliefs don’t 10% align with any extant denomination :(. My sister still, however, informs everyone she knows that I am headed to a nunnery.</p>
<p>I’m usually fine with the idea of not getting married, but then sometimes I think about it in a statistical manner and feel like, by doing so, I’d be turning myself into some small part of a depressing percentage in the census. I figure, though, so long as I get married, I’ll have children.</p>
<p>I think everyone wants a long term companion in their lives’ at some point. I would like to get married at an older age around 40ish or something, when i can’t casually date anymore</p>
<p>I’m okay with never getting married, it’s just a fancy piece of paper to me.</p>
<p>But I’d like to find a guy I get along with well enough to live with forever, at least the rest of my life after I’m 30. And have a kid with. And eventually if we feel like it, get married in Las Vegas.</p>
<p>You’re so my type of a person.
I don’t want to get married. I don’t want children. </p>
<p>Yet there’s always a stigma attached to anyone who lacks one of, or both of, the above. </p>
<p>Like Oprah or Sandra Bullock for example (bad example, I know but hang in there with me). They’re regularly seen as these women, despite all of their success, whose lives are just incomplete and the world should feel sorry for their lack of fetus bearing.</p>
<p>I’m just not interested in either. I can’t speak for 20 years down the road, but I’m wagering that it’s safe to say I’ll likely feel the same way.</p>
<p>Uhm…no. 10 char</p>
<p>Edit - Jesus, why does no one on here want to get married? Am I the only one who dreams of love and marriage and kids and having a person who you can have sex with whenever you feel like it?</p>
<p>My grandfather put it as “why tell the government who you’re having sex with”</p>
<p>But isn’t there a level of security with regards to the relationship in marriage as opposed to just living together? Despite the skyrocketing divorce rates, the success rate marriage has to be higher than two people in a relationship just living together for their entire lives. Admittedly, I have no statistics at all to support this, but it’s unfathomable to me that the opposite would be true. </p>
<p>I mean, do you want to be with one person for the rest of your life? Once you find them, of course.</p>
<p>I want to get married! I would seriously feel incomplete and like a total failure if I don’t get married by the time I’m 25 or 26 AT LEAST. Or I will start to become depressed.</p>
<p>I also really want to have a huge ass wedding that everyone will remember AND be talking about for a long, long time. It’s going to be BIG, BEAUTIFUL, with amazing food, location, EVERYTHING and i will make sure that everyone will party their asses off! I will make the wedding over THE top.</p>
<p>OP you may feel that way now, but someday you’re going to find a girl that just completes you. Like two pieces of a puzzle, you just fit together and neither of you wants to let go of the other person EVER. I’ve definitely found her, and she’s perfect =) We’ve spent every day together all day, and still end up talking to each other on the phone for 4 more hours at night.
Besides having sex whenever you want is pretty big bonus, + I do want to have kids.</p>
<p>Your perspective may alternate as you get older.</p>
<p>Marriage…is it necessary? You and another person are legally and officially bound as a couple. It says nothing about love, dedication, or cooperation. And having kids…that’s just reproducing, breeding, which ants, lemmings, mosquitoes, and people do all the time without any sort of affection. I especially dislike it when a couple’s love revolves around each other, and the children are just sort of satellites they’re stuck with and have to tolerate. I think you could live life perfectly happy in a nontraditional sense.</p>
<p>For that reason, then, it’s started to rub off on me that families with a billion children don’t usually place the focus on the children as much, simply because you can’t give the kids as much time and resources as they’d require. By that I don’t mean just food and a place to live. And there’s enough humans in the world anyway. I’d like to think of myself of as someone who wouldn’t contribute to that particular problem, however life-changing passing on your genes would be.</p>
<p>And marriage is another thing like that. There’s a ton of people you can just “click” with, none of which are really guarantees. Maybe living with one steady person towards later life would be nice in terms of stability and peace, but changing your last name to that person’s is a NO. However, if it was the other way around, I don’t think I’d mind lol.</p>
<p>^ Wow…that is a depressing perspective on relationships LOL.</p>
<p>^Sadly, more and more people are feeling that way about marriage. In my opinion, these kinds of people claim marriage is unnecessary, but it’s not like marriage is a burden. It’s a custom and tradition, and a good one at that.</p>
<p>I completely feel the way that randomazn14 does in a way; this is probably because my parents have gone through a divorce twice (…yes…twice). When people say, “I do”, about half of them will get divorced. How can that not be floating in the back of your mind?
There are 15 states that support common law marriage. As long as avoid this places like the plague, don’t file a joint tax return, and don’t refer to my SO as my husband, I will be able to live with significant other for as long as I’d like without being “married”.<br>
If I were to ever have children (and I do plan to have children some day…somehow, lol, my plans aren’t conducive to a stay-at-home kind of mentality), I’d have two maximum because it’d be hard to concentrate my resources on any more than that effectively. I plan on having children because it’s part of why I’m here; it’s innate to reproduce, and it should be a very rewarding process if done with the right person at the right time in my life.
Marriage, like boyfriend or girlfriend, is a * title *. It guarantees no degree of respect, commitment, love, or consideration that a relationship should have, and would have, without said title.
I have no idea how other people my age (particularly future boyfriends) feel about this, though my ex-boyfriend was both disappointed and taken aback by my view (but that’s an entirely new story that has nothing to do with the OP’s inquiry).</p>
<p>I think it’s more depressing that there are people put their self-worth on getting married and feel like a failure if they don’t.</p>