<p>The reason people don’t think very highly of online dating, I think, is just because the people who use it very likely can’t for one reason or another find a girlfriend/boyfriend in real life - which kind of hints at some level of personality (or physical) flaw.</p>
<p>Yeah, you can say that people who don’t need online dating could have potential personality flaws too, but that’s like saying “dating outside of convicted felons doesn’t mean you won’t run into a criminal too”, as a ridiculously extreme example :)</p>
<p>Yeah, you can say business professionals may not have time for real life dating, but if his/her business is so important that he/she can’t devote an hour or so per day to meeting new people, how do you think he/she will find time to devote to you and your relationship?</p>
<p>Either way you look at it: Just as going to a dirty bar you will run into more (on average) flawed girls/guys, in online dating you’ll run into a lot more (on average) flawed girls/guys of a different type.</p>
<p>The only main argument I see for online dating is that it lets you get to know the person before allowing the physical attraction aspect to overwhelm you. The arguments I see against this are:</p>
<p>A) People generally talk differently online than they do in real life, person to person. The personality you get to know online, will be different than in real life. Little mannerisms, form of speech, etc.</p>
<p>B) It seems statistically, no matter how perfectly compatible your personalities are, really long term relationships (like marriages) break up at the same rate. It’s not compatibility that keeps people together ultimately, but respect and a willingness to honor the other and work to resolve things.</p>
<p>C) Considering the above two, online dating pressures you more to make something of a relationship the moment you meet in person, since you’ve known the person for a while before that. This pressure might make you settle for someone who has an annoying mannerism to you, for example, or doesn’t have quite the physical chemistry you’d hoped. Do you really want to spend years with someone who you’d rather talk to online than in person?</p>