<p>I am going to a community college and well, its pretty damn lonely. Here I am a couple days past midterm and I haven't made a friend yet, I haven't done anything or gone to parties. Hell its so bad Ive started seeing movies on my own. Ive been to other sites, and they have suggested, join clubs and that <strong><em>. I wanted to at the begging of the year, then I looked at the club list, nothing intresting. I want to have fun, I haven't truly had fun since elementary, I shyed up and became quiet in 6th, I still am quiet and shy, confident, but quiet. And from what I asked from friends, I tend to come off as an *</em></strong>**, but anyways, what can I do to make atleast one friend this year. I don't want this to be ANOTHER year where I am home alone on New Years crying about how much my life sucks.</p>
<p>The club stuff is always a good idea. You don’t have to be terribly interested in what the club does. I’m a junior and the only friends I still hang out with I met in a club. There has got to be at least one club that you won’t hate, go to a meeting.</p>
<p>Well, guess what? You’re crying NOW.</p>
<p>Seriously, I’m ****ing sick of n00bs joining this site to make one dumb thread, taking up space on this forum, and then disappearing. Try using the search function, there’s crap like this written every day. We should just have one thread stickied at the top of the page for people to complain about how they’re losers incapable of making friends… maybe then they can all just band together and leave the regular members alone.</p>
<p>Or maybe, just maybe. You could post an intelligent reply. Because guess what, everyones situation is different. Don’t waste my or your time, or this sites bandwith with your ********.
And who said that I was going to leave this site. Maybe the answer to be becoming a normal person and not staying a “loser who is incapable of making friends” is here.</p>
<p>Oh and for 50 Mustang.</p>
<p>No, everything on the list wasn’t anything I was interested in. And it being a club usually means you have interest and experience in something. It reminded me of middle school where I got myself purposely kicked out of an after school activity because it wasn’t intresting.</p>
<p>Sometimes the purpose of being in a club is to meet interesting people. It is a bonus if the club is interesting also.</p>
<p>Here let me put it this way. I am in Iowa. I am not a farmer so I am not going to join the farmer’s club. I don’t play cello anymore(quit this year) so I am not going to join symphony club, I dislike sports so I am not going to join those clubs or intramural teams, I hate volunteering so that takes care of those groups, etc. You also have to take into account that the other people in the club are going to have personalities that reflect the club. Not to sound picky, but I do not want to have a friend that tries to get me intrested in sports or throws sports lingo at me.</p>
<p>You’re going to get a lot of sympathy here, I can tell.</p>
<p>Start your own club as you seem to have some sort of exotic interests that no club in your cc can provide currently.</p>
<p>you could start an oxi-clean club</p>
<p>Hi. I’m that annoying adult who occaisonally jumps on a thread to offer some supportive go get 'em type of motherly advice. Either you are horribly depressed, in which case you really need to get some professional help so that you can gain interest in your life again, or else, since you can find not even one club which interests you, you are really going to have to work on making yourself a more interesting person. Seriously. Not even one club? Get a job, then.</p>
<p>I have been to a psychaitrist and it didn’t help and we were out 4000 dollars for 3 months of treatment. And I do have a job, how do you think I am paying for college. I let my grades slip and if you haven’t guessed, I wasn’t involved in stupid activities like sports or Honor Society(I turned them down).</p>
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<p>Your school probably has a counseling center that is either free of charge (most likely) or of very low cost. It’s not like high school counseling where you just talk about grades, but you get actual help. You can give it a chance.</p>
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<p>Nope, not here. Sorry. This site either has people in the same boat as you or arrogant losers who are a step above you just 'cause they are too insufferably nerdy to care or managed to make friends with other arrogant nerds who think they’re insufferable geniuses.</p>
<p>You know what you should do? Relax and delve into books. A quote that has made me less lonely is, “Those who make friends with books are never lonely.” Although that may not be 100% true, it does give one solace. If you don’t like fiction, try philosophy. If you don’t know which philosopher to try first, go to wikipedia or a biography site where you can read about a few and you can pick one who’s the most interesting. Or an even more simple way is to read a general book about it. You will be able to open you mind beyond the boredom, banality and loneliness you are dealing with right now.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>The advice you’ve been given is good, for the average person who is having trouble making friends. But the vibe I get from your post is that loneliness is the least of your problems.
I am going to ask some questions but don’t bother to write your responses on here. Just think about them. Why would someone want to be your friend? What is it about you that is worth investing time and energy in? What would they get out of it? What would you even spend your time doing?
If the answers you are coming up with are like “I am smart” or “I am responsible” and “we’d watch t.v.” then you are missing the point. People have friends because it is fun and people enjoy being around each other. You don’t seem fun, and you don’t seem to be fun to be around. So think about what you need to change in order to be able to give good answers to those questions and go from there.</p>
<p>P.S. I know I am harsh. I really don’t care if this post makes you angry. In fact there is a 99% chance you will ignore what I have said, get angry, probably rationalize why I am a bad guy and go on living a life of bordeom, expecting the universe to throw you a bone. But it never will. And if it does, you’ll screw it up.</p>
<p>Soooo… you have no friends, no interests, and no stellar GPA. And you post on internet forums in your mountain of spare time bemoaning your lack of friends instead of, I don’t know, doing something crazy like getting off your special little cloud to make some. Sound familiar? Oh yeah, because it’s like 500 other threads we’ve seen before.</p>
<p>I’m beginning to agree with panic, why does this forum attract so many friendless moaners or pervy geeks?</p>
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<p>Um, is that a joke? If you can’t find any club that relates to your own self-serving/extracurricular interests (and I’m wondering what these are, exactly?), you should be able to get some satisfaction out of helping others. If you started making some compromises in your life, you might be able to form some good friendships where you wouldn’t expect. Just stop being picky and start acting like an adult, or you’ll never be happy anywhere. Most of the people in this thread are giving you harsh advice for your own good, so listen.</p>
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<p>well i go to a commuter college and none of the clubs there are interesting either ,
so i went and joined the american foundation for suicide prevention ,
and by making announcements in class i’ve managed to get enough people to start an on campus club here ,
maybe i’ll make friends this way who knows ,
and maybe you could do something like that too ,
if all the clubs suck just start your own</p>
<p>if all else fails just talk to people sitting behind you in class ,
a few weeks of that and you have a pretty solid in - class friendship ,
and even if you never see each other out of class it’s still company for in class</p>
<p>Off topic, however, GO AFSP! 
I love working with them. My boyfriend and I worked an out of the darkness walk last year and it was great.</p>
<p>Everyone at community college is living their own separate lives so yea, it is harder to make friends. It’s not you, it’s just how college is sometimes. It’s about getting a degree- not partying and having the most friends.
I agree, just talk to people in your classes. You’d be surprised how many friends you can make- or at least how many people you’ll have to talk to- just by doing this.</p>
<p>Otherwise, maybe take some classes for fun? Join a gym? Even having a part time job isn’t bad when you have great people to talk to…of course, it’s still a job, lol. But it’s nice to be around people.</p>