<p>Our son is a college freshman; one of those young men of few words.</p>
<p>It was not a smooth college application process for him (us) last year and we had a few lingering concerns about how satisfied he is with his decision.</p>
<p>Well, it's like an early Christmas present here to realize just how happy he is. Seems he's working much harder than he ever had to in H.S. (a very good thing), loving his classes, on campus job, and friends.
He even managed to share that he's 'going out with' this girl. (no name yet)</p>
<p>In a phone call last nite he mentioned that he's not sure exactly when he's coming home after exams....he might hang out a bit.....
I know we still matter to him but he's finding his own life. Pretty cool.</p>
<p>Hoping other parents are seeing similar reassurance with their kids' choices!</p>
<p>That's great, Musicmom! It's such a relief when our kids are making their way in life and happy with their work and choices. I hope he gets home for the holidays soon!</p>
<p>Yes, it is great that they are finding their own way and a new "life." D has a habit of randomly calling me at work. Today was no different. She received the shipment of cookies we ordered for her and the "friends"...to arrive just in time for final exams! Excited voices on the other end...but they were all in a hurry to head out to the calc tutorial. It was good to hear from her. D also had a chance to fly out earlier...but decided to stay until next Friday. It's all good...</p>
<p>S has said once he goes to college, we are not allowed to visit him whenever we feel like it (even if he goes to a Univ. in same town). We shouldn't expect him coming home frequently. </p>
<p>But (now this was a shock), he said,"HE WILL CALL US EVERY DAY"</p>
<p>Lucky for you!
We have to make due with the Sunday nite phone call....If we call, often it's a bad time, during a class or rehearsal or a nap!</p>
<p>He always seems content to share his life on that weekly call but doesn't call more often. I guess he's setting boundaries.......we have little sister call one other time during the week. He doesn't seem to object.</p>
<p>Mine is coming home tonight, but somehow I think my husband and I are lower on the list of things he's excited about. He has also transitioned nicely. This will be his first time home since mid-August.</p>
<p>Our D will be home for 2 weeks over Christmas. Friends of other college aged kids tell me that after the initial round of family and friends visits, the college kids get antsy and are chomping at the bit to return to school. They warned me not to feel hurt--after all, their lives have moved on.</p>
<p>Son is finished Wednesday-said he'll come home Thursday. Once he catches up on his sleep I expect him to be antsy. We don't call, we don't get weekly phone calls, he returns e mails-if they are important. We do get to attend his concerts ;).</p>
<p>I know how you feel. Mine never even make it home. For three years, now, we pick them up at college and drop them off either at the mall or a friend's home on the way (there is always some agenda). I think the ride home is the only time we get them to ourselves (luckily, it is a 3 1/2 drive - 5 with traffic)</p>
<p>They are always planning the return trip back to school before they schedule the actual pick up for home! They love school and have asked us to move closer to them (as if, we could leave our jobs, home, and family)</p>